10 possible reasons a guy ignores you after a great date

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You like someone and it seems like it’s going well until all of a sudden, their responses come less and less until you feel like they’re purposely ignoring you.

Why is that?

What to do when I feel ignored?

Well, I’m here to help you answer these questions. Read my article to learn why and how to deal with being ignored by your guy.

1) He’s just not that into you

This is one of the hardest reasons to hear, but it happens a lot. 

If a guy just isn’t attracted to you, it’s not personal. It doesn’t mean you aren’t a great person or that there is anything wrong with you. 

It just means he doesn’t want to date you. This can be especially hard to deal with after a great first date because you’ve invested so much time and energy into getting to know him, and you think he’s already seen the best sides of you. 

That’s not to say you shouldn’t give him a second chance if you feel like he just isn’t attracted to you, but don’t feel bad if he isn’t interested. 

It has nothing to do with you or what you did or didn’t do. You can’t force someone to like you no matter how hard you try.

2) He has no interest in dating you

This is another reason why a guy might ignore you after a great first date. It could be that he’s just not interested in dating anyone at all, let alone you. 

If you’re crushing on a guy who doesn’t want to date, then he might not want to lead you on by pretending he might want to date you. 

He probably wouldn’t want to lead you on even if he liked you, but he might want to be polite and let you down gently. 

Be careful not to mislead any signs he may give you – like being a gentleman and not calling you after a great date – as interest when it’s indifference. 

If you’re crushing on a guy who doesn’t want to date, but you’re sure he likes you and you’re sure he’s not just being polite, then you should be careful not to come across as desperate.

3) He’s losing interest in you slowly

He was infatuated with you when he first met you, but as time passed, he’s probably getting bored or has found something better to do.

He might have romantic feelings for someone else, or he might just be getting busy with other things. 

There’s a chance he’ll start to see you as less interesting, or he started interested in you but got bored and is interested in something new. 

It doesn’t mean the friendship is over or that he thinks you’re not worth dating; it just means he’s looking for something different.

4) He thinks you can handle his truth

Some guys might be hesitant to bring up a second date because they want to wait to see if you’re interested enough in them to pursue them as well. 

They might want to see if they could be the ones pursuing you, but they don’t want to come off as too eager. 

This might be the reason why a guy is ignoring you after a great first date. He might want to wait to see if you’re interested enough in him to make the first move. 

If you want the guy but you’re unsure about his hesitation, you could try to make the first move. 

You could try casually bringing up the date again – like saying something like, “I had a lot of fun when we went on that date last week!”

5) He doesn’t want to scare you off

This reason is less about the guy and more about you. 

Some guys might be interested in dating you, but they know there is a chance you might be scared off by their personality or lifestyle. 

If a guy is interested in dating you, but he doesn’t want to scare you off, he might try to drag out the “let’s be friends” phase to give you time to get used to his personality and do things with him before you have to decide to date him. 

This could be the reason why the guy you’re interested in is ignoring you after a great first date.

6) You misunderstood him

He isn’t interested in you in the first place. He never really liked you “that way” but you just misunderstood him and assumed he was in love with you. 

You can’t get a clear answer from him about why he’s ignoring you after a great first date, because he doesn’t know himself. 

He might be angry that you were so pushy and forward on the date, or he might be nervous about never hearing from you again. 

Or more likely, he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings but just isn’t interested in dating any girl right now.

7) He’s confused

He’s confused about his feelings for you, and he’s decided that taking a step back and avoiding you for a while can give him the time he needs to make up his mind. 

He doesn’t want to hurt your feelings but he doesn’t want to make a mistake. 

Like other times when a guy doesn’t want to date you, it doesn’t mean he isn’t attracted to you or that he thinks there is anything wrong with you. 

It just means he doesn’t know how he feels yet. 

8) He has a girlfriend or wife

This is rare, but it happens. 

If a guy has a girlfriend or wife who he’s in love with, it could be that dating you would be dangerous because of the emotional connection he might have with his girlfriend or wife. 

It doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you. It just means he wants to be safe for the time being until he knows for sure if there could be a future in your relationship.

9) He thinks you’re too easy

He might think you’re too easy to get. 

He thinks he can walk all over you and he doesn’t want to respect a girl like that. He knows if he’s nice to you, then you’re going to do whatever he wants. 

He thinks that even if he does have feelings for you, it would never work out because you give in too easily and don’t have any standards for yourself. 

10) He’s got a lot going on

He might be too busy to think about dating you right now. 

He might be working on a big project or trying to save enough money to go travel; he just doesn’t have the time to focus on dating anyone right now. 

This could be why he isn’t answering your texts or talking to you after your first date. 

If he does think about you, it’s only for a second before going to a more important priority in his life.

What to do next?

Don’t worry, there’s a solution to everything, even though being ignored can be frustrating. 

Below I have mentioned some ways that can help you with this problem.

1) You can decide to talk to him about what the heck is going on and find out for sure

Tell him, “I’m thinking about you a lot right now. I know it’s been a while since we’ve seen each other.

I don’t know where things are going with us, but I miss talking to you and being around you. Let me know if you want to talk about this or if there is something else that is making you not interested in dating me. ” 

If he says, “I don’t want to date you,” then be open to hearing this and accept it with grace. This can be a learning experience for both of you. 

You’re not going to have any control over the fact that he might not like you right now (no matter what you do), but by permitting him to dump you, he might feel more comfortable about nicely ending things if he does want to stop dating you.

2) You can ask him if he would be interested in talking to you more often or meeting up with you again

One of the most effective ways of making a guy ask you out is by making an indirect request and not asking him directly to ask you out. 

This will make him think about it and will slowly make his feelings towards you stronger. 

So if a guy is ignoring your texts, don’t expect that he will text back right away.

3) You could give him some space and see if he comes around or quits ignoring you

You could give him more time and space to think and wait for him to change his mind. 

This is the best way of getting a guy’s attention. But this needs patience. 

It’s only effective if you’re willing to wait and give him time before moving on to another guy or breaking off your attempts to get his attention completely.

4) Leave him for a few days

If you guys have been dating for a while and he is still ignoring you after your first date, then leave him for a few days. 

Leave him without saying anything. Give him some time to miss you and give him a nudge by texting him with something like, “Have a nice day!” or “Just wanted to say hello to you!” 

This can be the nudge he needs to realize how important you are to him.

5) Get more attention from other men

If he’s left you hanging for a while, then go out with other guys

Find another guy he’s interested in and give him the attention he deserves. 

This will make him feel insecure and will make him go back to you and ask if you want to see each other again (which is usually how the cycle of dating works). 

That can be happening or it could just make him realize that there are more men out there who are attracted to you than just him.

6) Positive, stay optimistic, and move on with your life

Don’t let the lack of response get you down. There are so many guys out there who are nice and good-looking that can be interested in you. 

No matter how long it takes, someone else will eventually come around who is interested in pursuing a relationship with you. This can happen if you let your past go and are open to meeting new people. 

You can never know what the misunderstanding is or what might be going on with him.

7) You can try to get his attention by doing things that will make him notice you

Talk to him and show him that you are interested in taking it slow by giving him a chance. Don’t call too much and don’t be a text-a-holic. 

Send short and sweet texts on occasion, but don’t overdo it because it can make guys not want to talk to you anymore.  

This is why I love the fade-away technique so much.

Final thoughts

Overall, ignoring you is a jerk move and it could have so many possible explanations.

But with the right approach, you can get through this quickly and find a guy who will not ignore you in the future.

 Just remember that sometimes you have to give a guy space and time to realize that he’s interested in you. 

Some guys can be so thick-headed that they never even think about you, even though they are attracted to you. 

So if a guy is ignoring your texts, be patient and don’t make him feel too uncomfortable. Don’t send so many messages back-and-forth, because that makes the conversation annoying.

I hope that the above article will help you – I wish you luck and believe in yourself.

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