The reality is that once you sleep with a guy, your chemistry changes.
You might not be attracted to him anymore, or you might just feel like you don’t have anything in common.
If you’ve ever been in this situation, read this article to find out if he has one of these 19 reasons why you might lose interest.
1) He doesn’t kiss well.
This is the biggest reason why people lose interest.
A lot of women are looking for an emotional connection with a guy they sleep with.
This doesn’t always mean that she’s going to be in love, but she wants to know that he can create an emotional bond with her.
Kissing is a huge part of getting physical with someone, and it really makes or breaks his chances of hooking up with someone.
Don’t get me wrong, when a guy kisses you it might not be the best kiss EVER.
Even if he has great everything else, but he just doesn’t know how to kiss his way to victory, then you probably won’t be too interested in hooking up with him again.
It’s an immediate turn-off when someone doesn’t know what they’re doing in bed.
But if he doesn’t know how to kiss (or even worse, he just doesn’t care), then you might end up losing your interest in him.
2) He only cares about himself.
If his actions don’t show that he cares about you, then you will assume that he doesn’t care about you.
This is a pretty key point when it comes to sex.
Even if you had mind-blowing sex with him, you might still not be interested in sleeping with him again if he doesn’t show that he’s caring and thoughtful toward you.
Another thing to watch out for is when women don’t feel comfortable around a guy they slept with.
3) He’s just not physically attractive enough in bed.
If a guy has great features and looks but can’t please you sexually, you’ll end up losing interest.
Everyone wants a great looking guy, but there are times when “looks matter”.
When you’re with a guy and it’s your first time in bed, you want to know that he has some amount of skill.
If he doesn’t have the best moves or he’s just not attractive to you physically, then you might not be interested in sleeping with him again.
4) He tells you that he can’t get enough of your body in bed.
I know this isn’t really a reason why you might lose interest, but it’s one of the biggest turn-offs that you can hear from a guy.
If a guy tells you in bed, “I want your body,” or “I can’t get enough,” then he’s probably not a lot of fun to be around.
He might say something like “I’m so glad that I finally got rid of all of your clothes. It was the best sex I’ve ever had.”
Or “I can’t wait until the next time we sleep together. You were amazing and your body was PERFECT”.
I know that this sounds like a good thing, but it usually means that he’s only interested in you for sex.
If you’re looking for more than just sex, then you won’t be interested in meeting him again.
5) He’s not your soulmate.
Sometimes you just aren’t attracted to someone after sleeping with them, and there isn’t much more than that.
After sleeping with him a couple of times, you might find yourself thinking, “I just don’t feel the same anymore.”
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6) He doesn’t seem capable of having an intellectual conversation.
If a guy can’t have a conversation with you, then he’s probably not a very confident man.
You want to meet someone who is confident in themselves, has some level of intelligence, and who can hold a conversation with you.
A lot of guys are just jokesters when it comes to knowing what to talk about when you’re in bed together.
If your guy is being really bad at knowing how to talk about “the stuff” (everything from the weather to politics), then you might be losing interest in him.
7) He keeps talking about his ex girlfriends during sex.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t think that it’s a good idea to keep talking about ex-girlfriends when you’re in bed with someone.
A lot of guys probably think that they’re being funny by bringing up stories of their past conquests, but it’s completely unattractive.
This is something that we don’t want to hear from a guy when we’re getting intimate with them.
They might talk about their ex as if they’re still together or they might even bring them up when you’re feeling intimate with them.
If you’re looking for some type of emotional connection with a guy, then this is another huge turn-off.
8) He’s a player.
This is usually the number one reason why women lose interest in men.
Playing the field always means that they’re just using women for sex.
If a guy is a player, then you’ll feel like he only wants to use you for sex.
This isn’t necessarily a deal breaker because some guys are like that, but it will definitely make you lose your interest in him.
If he’s into lots of different girls, then there’s a good chance that he might not be exclusive with you and you’ll lose interest.
9) He’s under your standards.
If you were looking for a guy with a bunch of qualities that he doesn’t have, then you’ll lose interest.
This is why you should always be honest about what you want, because if you’re not compatible, then he won’t be able to understand where you’re coming from.
If he doesn’t understand where you’re coming from and he was just acting in a way that was “begging for attention” from other women like saying things like: “Oh I’m sorry I never knew that”
10) He “overplays” his attraction to you.
Some guys make strong gestures, but they’re not very genuine.
If a guy hugs you a little too tightly, or he kisses you like he wants to devour you, it might not be a bad thing.
But if he’s overly “romantic”, then he could just be putting on an act for your sake.
This isn’t always the case for guys who are over-the-top romantic, but it does happen sometimes.
I’ve known guys who will bring flowers and chocolate or buy me something expensive when I’ve slept with them for the first time.
11) He talks about sex with other girls around you.
It’s really not that important if he talks about his ex-girlfriends or other girls he’s slept with (or maybe still sleeps with) at work.
What matters is whether you’re uncomfortable when he does it.
Maybe it doesn’t bother you, but this is a sign that he’s probably more interested in hooking up with other girls than he is with you.
If this happens all the time, then you should get out of there right away.
It’s just not worth it to be around someone who hooks up with other girls while they’re sleeping with you.
12) He tells you how sexually attracted he is to you.
The problem with a guy who tells you that he’s sexually attracted to you is that he could be doing it all the time.
If a guy always tells you how “super hot” or “sexy” you are, then it might be coming from his mouth because he thinks that’s what women want to hear.
He also might think it’s funny to tease you with his flirtatious comments, but in your mind, it just means that he’s not into being serious about anyone.
13) He wants sex on the regular.
You might lose interest if a guy wants sex every day or multiple times per week.
If he’s calling you a “tease” when you are the one saying no, then this is another reason why you might lose interest.
Some women look for a guy who is really in to them, so if he doesn’t show that he’s interested in more than just sex from you, then you probably won’t be interested in sleeping with him again.
It all depends on what your deal breakers are, but if he wants sex too much, then it might not be a good idea to keep hooking up with him.
14) He keeps asking you if he’s good in bed.
If you sleep with him and he asks you if he’s a good lover, then the answer is probably “NO”.
He’s either insecure or just doesn’t care about how you feel.
You shouldn’t have to reassure him that he was good in bed. He should know it from your vibe.
If a guy has to ask me if I think that I was having a good time, then I’m not interested in sleeping with him again.
15) He doesn’t care enough about your needs and wants.
If he doesn’t really care what you want from the beginning, then it’s not likely that you’ll be interested in hooking up with him again.
A lot of women have said that their partners were pretty good at giving affection, but they didn’t have a clue as to what they wanted.
It’s not a good idea to sleep with a guy who is only interested in getting his own needs met, especially if he isn’t showing that he cares about what you want (in bed).
I think a common reason why many women lose interest in a man after sleeping with him is because they just don’t feel like he has any concern for them.
16) He asks a lot of questions about your sex life before sex.
When a guy asks a lot of questions about your sex life before sex, this is another huge turn off for many women.
This is probably not the best time to start cringing, but it’s a turn-off when someone asks you about your sexual past before sex.
I know that asking questions lets you know that he cares, but this is NOT the best way to hook up with him.
The last thing you want to do is tell a guy about your sex life right before sleeping with him.
It makes it seem like you’re being too open and comfortable with him, which can turn off women who are looking for an intimate connection.
17) He doesn’t respect your boundaries.
You shouldn’t ever sleep with someone if you don’t want to.
If a guy doesn’t respect your boundaries, or takes advantage of you in any way, then he should not be around you.
This is one of the biggest reasons why you might lose interest in a guy after sleeping with him.
It’s especially important to keep these two factors in mind when it comes to casual sex.
18) His conversation doesn’t interest you much after sex.
Sex can be the best part about hooking up with someone, but it’s not the only thing that women are looking for when they’re out at the bars and clubbing.
You want to know that you have a connection with the person you’re sleeping with.
I know that it’s not always possible to talk or say things when you’re in bed, but if he can’t hold a conversation with you after sex, then this is a HUGE turn off.
19) He doesn’t want to be around you after sex.
Let’s face it, when most casual sex starts out, it ends because both parties were happy with the way things were going (or not going).
This is often not the case in casual hookups.
If you’re looking for a relationship, then someone walking away after sex, or telling you that he doesn’t want to be around you anymore is never a good sign.
It’s not the best when someone loses interest after sex because that’s exactly what most women are looking for.
It can be even more nerve-wracking when it’s right after.
It happens way too often with men in the dating world because they’ve gotten what they wanted and moved on to the next girl.
After reading this you might ask yourself, “What does a woman want?”
It’s a difficult question to answer but I can tell you for sure that sexual compatibility is not the most important thing.
People can be sexually compatible and NOT have good sex.
The way he talks to you, interacts with you and the way he holds himself in bed is what can truly make or break your experience.
It’s not always easy to tell whether or not a guy is interested in being serious with you or if he just wants to hook up with someone and have fun.
If things seem off as soon as you start getting intimate, then it’s possible that your initial instincts were right.
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