What it means when you think of someone and they pop up

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We’ve all had the experience of thinking about someone and then seeing them right in front of us.

A lot of us think it’s just a coincidence or we can’t explain why they are in our thoughts at that moment.

But what is the reality behind this phenomenon?

Here are 15 things that may explain this occurrence.

1) They are your soulmate

Imagine this:

You had a dream about someone you’ve never met before.

The next day, when you think about the dream, you suddenly see that person

It’s almost like the Universe is giving you a glimpse of what is to come. What might be happening in this scenario is that your soulmate is trying to reach you.

The people we meet in our dreams represent those with whom we have a connection.

You were given a glimpse into the future to prepare yourself for what’s about to come.

So here are some other signs that they’re really your soulmate:

  • You’ve always had this connection with them
  • Their appearance reminds you of a person you know
  • They are the only person you can think of when you think about a particular situation
  • You dream about them often. And they have been in your dreams since the beginning stages of your relationship.

2) You may have unfinished business

Another meaning of when you think about someone they pop up is that you have some unfinished business with them.

This is more than just a coincidence. In fact, it’s a sign that you have things to say to them, or there is something that you need to do when it comes to them.

It can be the kind of thing that you have been thinking about for a while, or it can be something that has just cropped up.

It could be something you are afraid to say to them because you’re ashamed of it. 

Or, maybe it’s something that’s tearing you apart and causing you great pain.

Whatever the case may be, it means there is some unfinished business between the two of you and they need to be brought closer to each other by saying what needs to be said and acting upon what needs to be done.

3) You are destined to be with them

The people we are drawn to and think about all the time may be destined to be with us.

Maybe you’re thinking about your ex.

The bond you have with them could have been there since a past life. The Universe has reconnected you with this person to help you get your tasks done.

There is a reason they appeared in your thoughts at that particular moment, and it might not be a coincidence at all. 

It could be a sign that this person has been sent to help you out in some way or another.

So if you feel drawn toward them and they pop up when you think of them, don’t ignore it because it means that this person can be one of the tools for inner growth and transformation. 

You will discover more about them along the way and both of you will benefit from your relationship.  

4) Your lives are intertwined in some way 

Whether the lives of the two of you are intertwined in some way is yet to be seen. 

But there is a possibility that your lives have crossed each other in a past life and it wasn’t a smooth meeting.

It may have been a challenging one, where you both fought each other for whatever reason. 

Whatever it was, you haven’t forgotten about it yet and you still have some unresolved issues to deal with from this life as well.

There might also be one or two things that the Universe wants to check on in this lifetime. 

It might want to see how well someone else has learned from his/her mistakes, so there are possibilities that they might come across each other again in this lifetime as well.

So if they do appear in your thoughts often and then turn up, don’t just brush them off thinking it’s “just another one of those crazy coincidences.” 

Give them another shot instead! 

5) That person is triggering your traumatic past memories 

If you are suddenly thinking often about someone and then see them, they might be triggering memories from your past. 

That person or their appearance might remind you of someone else from your past who hurt you and made you feel bad.

But the good news is that this event could also be an opportunity for you to heal from your past and move on, instead of being stuck in the same place. 

You might want to find out what it is that they are triggering in you, and also why they appear at this particular moment.

This may be a sign that you need to work through some of your pain and trauma from the past on your own, without them involved even if they were the ones who hurt you. 

Take some time alone and listen to what your inner self has to say about it all.

6) You’ve been daydreaming about them 

You might have been daydreaming about them a lot and that’s why you keep thinking about them often. 

And now, here they are in front of you.  

This can be a sign that your subconscious mind wants you to see this person again, so it brought them up in your thoughts many times until you saw them again.

Once you did see them, just go with the flow and see where it leads you. 

You both may have been meant to meet each other for other reasons anyway, so just don’t run away from it too soon without exploring the possibilities.

7) You’re trying to fight off urges to contact them

One of the meanings of seeing someone in person after thinking about them is that you’re trying to resist the urge to contact or get in touch with them. 

You may have been feeling a strong impulse to talk to that person again but are struggling with it. 

You might have even made some excuses why it would be bad for you to contact that person.

But keep in mind:

In case you are seeing the same person a lot in your thoughts and then turn up unexpectedly, be open to the idea that your subconscious mind might be trying to encourage your conscious mind to move forward and follow through on what it’s been wanting.

8) Synchronicity

Synchronicity is when you have a random coincidence happen to you, which is related to something else. 

It’s like a small sign, message, or reminder of something else that’s going on. 

So, if you’re thinking of someone and they turn up, look for any coincidences in your life at the same time.

If they suddenly contacted you or called you at the same time as this event happened, then it might mean something special and meaningful to both of you. 

You should take a closer look at why such things happened around this time and be open to the idea that there might be some sort of connection between them all.

There are several reasons why synchronicity happens:

  • Your inner self or subconscious mind wants you to understand something or get advice from it.
  • Your conscious mind doesn’t want something to happen, so it keeps it from happening.
  • Your conscious mind wants something to happen and then gets a message from your subconscious mind telling you not to do it.
  • A spiritual being wanted this event to happen for a reason and gave you instructions on how to proceed with what was going on.

9) You have a recurring dream about that person

Another meaning of seeing someone in person after thinking about them is that you have a recurring dream about them.

Though it can be a coincidence that your dream is similar to their appearance, there are more possibilities, like: 

You might have had this dream several times before and/or again after seeing them. 

But because you haven’t been able to wake up from it until now, it’s probably a sign that this person has been trying to contact you so you could see them in person again. 

Perhaps they were trying to draw your attention to them again because this time you’re seeing them. 

Don’t get disheartened if you have a dream like this several times over, because you are definitely not alone and it might be a sign that it’s your nature to see them often in your dreams for some reason. 

It’s also possible that it was meant to happen this time around and you’re being shown something from the Universe that is new or important for your development.

10) You have vivid memories of that person

The Universe can speak with you in many different ways and even give you signs that things are going to happen.

One of the ways is to send you clear signs and clues about what’s going on in your life like seeing someone in person after thinking about them does.

Another way is through vivid memories of the past. 

You might find yourself dreaming or remembering something from your past when you see this person again, but it might be a sign that there might be something special between both of you. 

Because you haven’t been able to remember before, this might be your subconscious mind trying to draw your attention to something or provide you with helpful information.

But remember: 

This could just be a coincidence if this person turns up again, while it could be a sign that they have been trying to contact you and now are reminding you of something important in your life and calling upon you to follow through. 

11) There is something you need to remember about that person 

As we’ve discussed before, seeing someone in person after thinking about them can be a sign that there’s something you need to remember regarding them. 

It could also be another sign that they are here to help you out somehow, as they may be trying to remind you of some kind of message or ask for advice. 

So, if you’re seeing someone in your thoughts frequently, don’t ignore this sign.

Instead, find out what it is that you need to see about them and see where the message leads you.

I’ve been there: 

I saw a person I had thought about several times in my dreams many times before, and I finally saw them in real life. 

After we talked for some time and got to know each other more, it turned out that we had something important to talk about and it was a sign from the Universe that I should find out more about them and see them again.

12) They represent something (usually positive) to you

OK, I know what you’re thinking:

“What kind of crazy explanation is that?” 

But the truth is that seeing someone in the flesh after thinking about them can mean many different things.

But if you’ve been thinking about a person repeatedly, it could be a sign that this person has some sort of positive meaning for you. 

That’s why they keep reappearing in your thoughts and you keep seeing them in real life. 

It could be a sign that this person has some kind of value for you and is prepared to be a mentor or teacher, or maybe have some other positive meaning for you.

They can also represent something that’s going on in your life like a lesson or a sign from the Universe that it’s time to make some changes.

13) You have obsessive thoughts about that person

Do you have obsessive thoughts about someone? 

Do they keep appearing in your mind and then when you see the person in real life, you can’t stop thinking about them? 

It could be a sign that you need to talk to this person and clear up something. 

Maybe there is something going on between the two of you that needs to be resolved. 

Maybe seeing them in real life will help you realize what this is and how valuable they are to you. 

Or maybe they represent something to you and it’s time to make some changes.

Whatever the case, don’t keep these thoughts to yourself. Get up and try to find out what this means by talking to the person.

14) Your subconscious is trying to tell you something 

What is it that I always say? 

It’s the Universe talking to you. 

Your subconscious is always around trying to do its job, which is to help you out of any situation. 

Just like with your dreams, it might be your subconscious mind reminding you of something or providing you with helpful information by telling you that it’s time to see a person in real life after thinking about them several times in a row. 

So don’t ignore these signs. 

Instead, follow through and find out what they’re trying to tell you.

15) You have unresolved feelings for them

You probably know by now that seeing someone in real life after thinking about them can be a sign that there’s something unresolved between the two of you.

Seeing them in real life could also mean that there are unresolved feelings between the two of you. 

It might not just be one person, but a group of people or even an entire relationship that needs to be dealt with if it’s still unresolved for you. 

Whatever the case, remember this: 

Don’t deal with these feelings by ignoring them and hoping that they’ll go away. 

Instead, try to learn as much about them as you can until you figure out what needs to happen in order for you to move on and feel better. 

Here’s the step-by-step process to help you deal with these feelings if they’re still unresolved:

  • Write down the date and time you think about them
  • Write down your thoughts and feelings at that moment
  • Write down what’s going on in your life at that moment (if it applies)
  • Find out if there are any unclaimed signs from the Universe related to these thoughts or feelings. 

Once you’re done with all that, follow through with it by finding this person in real life after thinking about them and seeing what happens.

Final thoughts

I know that it can be hard when you’re thinking about someone and then seeing them in real life later. 

But remember that it’s just a part of life. 

Either it’s just a coincidence or it’s a sign from the Universe, and you’ll know eventually.

Once you figure out what it means, you can use it to help you resolve whatever is going on with the two of you.

If it’s something negative that needs to be dealt with, then just go talk to the person or find out what it is that you want to see about them. 

If there are some good things about them, then keep those in mind and try not to forget about them.

Just continue to live your life and be yourself. One day, this person might come back into your life.

And if they don’t, then you’ll be fine either way. Because you’ll keep going on with the things that are important to you, and you’ll stop wasting time worrying about someone who isn’t a part of your life anymore.