You’ve just met a great girl and she gives you her number without you asking. What does it mean?
To some, it’ll be seen as a clear sign that the girl is interested; others may read it as something more innocent, or possibly even only polite consideration.
To find out what your new acquaintance’s intentions are with regard to pursuing a romantic relationship with you, we’ve compiled this list of 10 things it could mean when a girl gives you her number without you asking and how to respond.
Here are 10 things it could mean when a girl gives you her number without you asking.
1) She is possibly looking for something casual and doesn’t expect anything serious later on in the relationship
Here’s an interesting fact:
While not everyone who gives out their number is looking for a romantic encounter, those who do give out their numbers are more likely to be extremely casual about the whole thing.
What this means is that they are looking for something casual and they aren’t expecting anything serious later on in the relationship.
If you’re looking for something serious, then you may want to avoid women who give out their numbers right away, unless you’re okay with something light and nothing serious.
If she gives you her number, but doesn’t seem to be all too excited about it or seems kind of cool about it all in general, then chances are she’s giving it to you expecting nothing more than a few drinks or perhaps even just a one night fling.
2) She wants to be friends with you
There are many reasons why a woman would want to be friends with you, and a lot of those reasons can lead to both friendship and romance down the road.
However, the most common reason for wanting to befriend you is because she feels an attraction to you, but isn’t sure if that means you feel attraction for her as well.
She’ll give you her number in hopes that your phone will ring later on in the night or maybe even over the next few days or weeks.
If you do call her up, then she’ll know either way whether or not she’s attracted to you.
This works in your favor if you’re looking for something more casual and if she’s not your type, then all it means is that you can be friends with this girl (which can often turn into something more…).
If this is what she’s thinking about, then giving out her number can mean one of two different things – either she wants something casual and nothing serious or she wants friendship and romance down the road.
3) She could be looking for a company to hang out with and can’t find anyone else
Think about this for a moment:
If a girl is at a bar, or maybe she’s on a date and that date doesn’t seem to be going in the direction she wants it to, or perhaps she’s just sitting there by herself and she does not seem all that interested in the people around her, then if given the opportunity she will give out her number because chances are she might want someone to hang out with.
If you find yourself in this scenario, then there are two things you’ll have to take into consideration before contacting her.
You’ll first have to see what kind of mood she’s in.
If it seems cool and laid back, then chances are good that you can invite her over to watch a movie or something along those lines.
However, if she seems kind of distant and like something is bothering her, then proceed with caution.
4) She likes you
This is probably the most exciting reason of all and fortunately for you, this is the most common scenario.
A girl will give out her number to a guy she likes because she knows that it’s a more realistic and effective way of getting in touch with him than giving him her business card (which she may or may not even have).
She can now call you whenever she wants to and often within minutes after leaving your company.
Or perhaps it’s even simpler than that. If a woman gives out her number to a guy who happens to be attractive or catches her eye in some way, then this is an obvious sign that she finds him attractive as well.
The same advice applies in this case as it did in the last – see how you feel about this girl before contacting her.
If you like what you see, then give it a shot, but if you’re not feeling so sure about her, then don’t hesitate to forget about it altogether.
5) She is attempting to make someone jealous
Some women do this because they think it’s entertaining and fun – but other girls do it because they want a specific reaction from the person who receives the number.
Perhaps she wants to make her ex-boyfriend jealous or maybe she just wants to impress her friends by making her boyfriend jealous.
In most cases, however, the girl is simply trying to entertain herself by doing something risky and edgy.
If you get a girl’s number under these circumstances, then there are three possibilities of what might happen when you contact her:
- You can either have a good time with an interesting woman,
- You can waste your time on an insecure whiner who isn’t worth your attention
- If you’re extremely lucky, you can actually hook up with someone worth your time and effort.
So take a look for yourself and see what you think about the situation before handing her your number.
6) It is a prank of some sort
No one is really sure why some people do this and it’s not known for sure if anyone will ever find out.
Nevertheless, there are certain occasions when a woman will give out her number as a joke or prank. Perhaps she’s trying to mess with you or perhaps she just wants to make you feel like an idiot.
Either way though, the end result is that you have now given your phone number to someone who has no intention of calling you ever again.
If this happens, then it’s best that you simply laugh about the situation and try to move on with your life as quickly as possible because there is no way in which you’ll be able to win any kind of argument with someone like this anyway.
Common sense dictates that any girl who gives out her number as a joke isn’t worth your time in the first place.
7) She likes the attention
Trust me, I know this seems impossible, but there are a lot of girls who like getting catcalled, getting their numbers written on bathroom walls, and having strange men ask them out.
Just like men, being wanted by someone can be a rewarding feeling and these women enjoy the attention that they get from strangers.
Of course, most of these girls aren’t very attractive, successful, or interesting in any way so you really shouldn’t waste your time on them (unless you’re just looking for some quick sex).
8) She may want your opinion on something
The girl who gives you her number is either doing it to get your opinion on something or because she thinks that you might be someone who can offer her help.
On one hand, she may want your advice on something important such as whether or not she should get a new haircut.
On the other hand, she may be looking for help with finding a job, getting an apartment, or even learning how to use the internet.
If this is the case and you can help in any way, then by all means give her a call!
She might just be hoping that you’ll offer to do it for nothing, but if not and you do charge her a reasonable fee or accept payment in exchange for your time and effort, then that’s fine too.
It’s always nice when people let us know when they need some assistance so let’s take advantage of it when we can!
If nothing else, we’ll have another person on our side in life and people like that are always worth having around.
9) She is just trying to be nice
I know that you might find it hard to believe, but there are actually girls out there who just want to be nice to people and don’t care about getting anything in return.
Similar to the situation above, they may ask you for your help because they think that you might be able to provide it, but they’re doing so because they want to make your life a little bit easier.
They want to show you that they care and where this is the case, there is absolutely no reason why you shouldn’t take them up on their offer and give them your number in exchange for theirs.
10) Her friends want her to give you her number
In some situations, a friend will try to help her girlfriend meet someone new, usually because her girlfriend recently broke up with her boyfriend.
You might notice that the girl is very nervous and that her friends are staring at you.
She’s probably not expecting you to call her or even get her phone number, but after all her friends have done for her, she thinks that she owes them at least one favor.
This is yet another situation where you might want to do one for free, but if you want anything in return then she will ask for it.
How to respond when a girl gives you her phone number?
Now that you know the different reasons why women give out their phone numbers, it’s time to learn what you should do when one of them decides to give you hers.
Give her a call or text and try to keep the conversation going
First of all, she’ll probably be excited to know that you have called her and this will make her feel a little bit better about herself.
Secondly, if you call her then she’ll have to put up with it for at least ten seconds or so before she can hang up. If she’s not too annoyed by it though, try to keep the conversation going for a few minutes and show that you’re interested in her.
If it turns out that she’s not interested in talking with you, don’t panic!
Think that she might try to hit on you again, so don’t be offended if she makes a subtle come-on.
Make your intentions clear
If you want to ask her out on a date or simply want to get to know her better, don’t be afraid to tell her that.
However, it’s important to remember that most of the time girls will ask for your number because they want you to call them in order to ask them out.
This means that if you’re looking for a quick hookup, then it’s probably best that you give her yours and simply say “Let me know what happens” before hanging up.
If you want to ask her out on a “date” though, then you might have to get a little more creative.
Perhaps you could tell her that the reason you’re calling is that she left something at your house or that you need to ask her some questions about math class.
Whatever approach you take, just make sure that she knows what your intentions are and where things are headed.
Ask her out
You might be under the impression that women don’t like being asked out because they’re too busy with their own lives, but this is simply not true.
In fact, it’s just the opposite! This is why many girls who don’t like getting hit on will give you their numbers because they want to get to know you better.
If you’re having trouble with asking girls out, then this is a great way to get past your fear of rejection and develop the courage that you need.
Be polite, don’t be easy to read
You don’t want to intimidate her because the last thing that she wants is to be scared off by someone who seems too confident.
On the other hand, if you’re sure that she likes you and wants to get together with you, then there is no reason why you shouldn’t be a little bit more forward with her.
You want to make it clear that you don’t need her approval in order to get what you want so don’t be afraid to go for it!
Flirt with her
If you know that she’s interested in you, then teasing her might be just the thing that you need to get her to feel comfortable around you.
Don’t overdo it though, because if her friends see this, then they’re going to start wondering what’s going on.
You don’t want to transparently flirt with someone by telling everyone that you like them or asking them out on a date straight away.
If you like her and want a chance with her, then you can try to be a little more subtle about it.
You could let her know that she looks nice today or compliment some of the things she’s wearing or, if you’re feeling especially bold, ask for her number and tell her that you’ll call her later.
These are just some of the different ways that you can respond when a girl gives you her phone number but there are many others so just explore the topic in further depth.
Keep being nice to her but don’t expect anything in return
Remember that she might be giving you her number for a reason, but it doesn’t mean that she wants a boyfriend from you.
On the contrary, she might be anxious and uncomfortable around you because she’s afraid that you’ll try to take advantage of her.
Even if she doesn’t ask for anything in return, don’t be afraid to show that you care about her or try to get to know her better.
It’s also important to remember that she might be giving you her number as a way of saying “thank you” so don’t feel like you need to get anything out of her in return.
As you can see, women don’t always give out their phone numbers for the same reasons so it’s important to familiarize yourself with the list above.
While some girls might be looking for a boyfriend and others might just want to get to know you better, there are many who will do it simply because they like your style.
If you’re feeling confident around women, then this is a great way to find out whether or not they like you and it’s also a good way to develop some self-esteem.
Remember that even if you’re not the most outgoing person, there are always women who will appreciate your sense of humor or kindness and give you their number.
Just make sure that you don’t expect anything in return, and treat the woman with respect, honesty, and kindness, and then you’ll be rewarded for it!