9 obvious signs you’re may not be a straight female

Although we are living in an era where LGBTQ+ rights are slowly swinging toward acceptance, we still have a long way to go before “I am not straight” can be said as simply as “I am straight”.

Hence, for most people, especially when we are females, it could take a long time to be mature and brave enough to discover ourselves.

So, if you are ready and can’t wait to define yourself, this article is just so right for you!

Here is a list of 9 obvious signs you are may not be a straight female

You feel more comfortable being around females

So, we can admit that this is one of the most apparent and recognizable signs that you are not straight.

You may feel more comfortable being with female friends or sharing your problems with your sister, mom, or maybe grandma.

You may also feel a bit awkward or even disgusted when you are around males, or you just simply avoid spending time with them.

It is okay to feel uncomfortable being around men, as it can be quite common for straight females as well.

However, if your feelings go beyond that, and you tend to flirt with females in front of male friends out of pure joy instead of fun, this may be a strong indicator that you are not straight.

If you love to go shopping with your female friends, spend hours going fashion hunting or get ready together, this is also a good indication that you might like girls.

This may not always be right for everyone, however, if you love to hang out with other girls and it feels more than just friends, then there is a good chance that you might be interested in girls.

2) Most of your ex-relationships are with females

This is one of the most common signs that you are not straight.

If you know that at least 90% of your ex-relationships were with females, then this is an indication that you might be a lesbian, bisexual or non-straight female in general.

Or you may recognize that you have always tended to romantically be more compatible with girls and most of your ex-lovers are girls, then you may not be straight at all.

If you are a woman who has the tendency to form relationships with other girls, this means you might be open to dating lesbians, bisexual women, or females in general.

You just might have more of a comfort level around women than other females do.

3) You are questioning your sexuality

So, if you have read this line, you have checked a sign. 🙂

This can be considered the most obvious sign as girls or women who aren’t appealed to the same-sex – females, don’t typically care about whether they are lesbian or bisexual or remain straight.

They don’t consider having sexual experiences or even attraction other than hetero ones, so there is nothing to worry about.

What we are saying is that if you are questioning your sexuality, there is a chance that you are not straight.

If you find yourself pondering about your sexuality every now and then or you have searched for this title quite many times and you are going through every sign in this article, it might be a clear indication that you are not straight.

While questioning your sexuality, you may feel confused and stressed sometimes due to social pressure and expectations.

But what if you could change this, and as a result change your life?

I am here again to help you reconnect with your inner self and release the chains of social pressure and expectations.

You see, so much of what we believe to be reality is just a construction. We can actually reshape that to create fulfilling lives that are in line with what matters most to us.

The truth is:

Once we remove the social conditioning and unrealistic expectations our family, education system, even religion has put onto us, the limits to what we can achieve is endless.

I learned this (and much more) from the world-renowned shaman Rudá Iandé. In this excellent free video, Rudá explains how you can lift the mental chains and get back to the core of your being. 

A word of warning, Rudá isn’t your typical shaman. 

He is not going to reveal pretty words of wisdom that offer false comfort. 

Instead, he’s going to force you to look at yourself in a way you have never before. It’s a powerful approach, but one that works. 

So if you are ready to take this first step and align your dreams with your reality, there’s no better place to start than with Rudá’s unique method.

Here’s a link to the free video again.

4) You dream and think of females more than males

This is the second most typical marker that you might not be straight after the previous sign, and for the same purpose.

You may find yourself dreaming more often about female characters than male ones, or you can easily fall asleep watching a movie with gay or lesbian characters.

Does this sound familiar?

This behavior may be so common and natural that not until you read the previous line, do you realize that it is an indication that signals your non-straight sexuality.

The reason why you are fantasizing and dreaming about lesbian or bisexual women is not that you like them as sexual partners, but because they probably represent your own sexuality.

And if you have this kind of dream, it is a strong indicator that you might be non-straight.

However, if you just have one or two dreams like this, there is nothing to worry too much about.

You may also find yourself thinking of females more than males.

For example, you might spend more time in the company of other females or imagine spending the night with another girl (before you actually do it).

If this is the case for you, then this is a sign that you might be a lesbian, bisexual, or non-straight female in general.

5) “Girl crush” is always deeper and greater than “boy crush”

If your desire for girls and women is more intense than for males, and you say that you probably have a girl crush most of the time, this is an indication that you may be non-straight.

A girl crush is a positive infatuation or appreciation for a female (“the object of one’s unrequited affections”), and can sometimes be interpreted as a crush on someone you are attracted to, but don’t actually want to date.

However, if you have a strong girl crush on and are in love with someone, this can be the leading indicator that you may be lesbian, bisexual, or generally non-straight.

It is not uncommon to find yourself infatuated with a girl or female in general.

Some may even feel like this is just an imaginary crush and does not affect their life seriously.

But if you are in love with a girl or a woman and feel in her presence that you can’t breathe without her, then that is a sign.

This is just another minor warning sign that says:

“Your crush might be more infuriating than platonic.”

6) You enjoy watching and reading lesbian-related topics

Reading and watching lesbian-related topics is a great way to test your sexuality.

If you are attracted to them and feel aroused while doing so, this is not just one of the signs, but the biggest indicator that you might be a non-straight female.

You may find yourself having an enormous obsession with lesbian porn and watch it all the time.

So, as you’ve probably guessed by now, this is a sign of your non-straight sexuality.

You can also test your sexuality by obsessively reading a topic related to it.

It is easy to tell if you are not straight via reading about lesbian or bisexual-related books, blogs, and forums.

An important piece of advice before you do is:

Be very careful not to get addicted to them.

It is highly likely that you may end up falling in love with one of your favorite lesbian or bisexual female character and then confuse love with lust.

7) You are a strong advocate of LGBTQ+ rights and the community

If you are a supporter of LGBTQ+ rights and experience discomfort in the presence of homophobic individuals, this is a strong indicator that you might be non-straight.

Regardless of your own sexual orientation, all people should have the right to choose their sexual orientation, and live freely and peacefully.

They should also be free to live their sexual orientation!

Being an advocate for the LGBTQIA+ community means that you have a natural attraction toward their allies and supporters.

This can be more confident or timid depending on your personality.

Maybe you are a strong advocate but you often find yourself hiding it for fear of others’ judgement.

But fear not!

I am here beside you to help with emotions, anxiety, and those obstacles to get your lives on track.

When I felt the most lost in life, I was introduced to an unusual free breathwork video created by the shaman, Rudá Iandê, which focuses on dissolving stress and boosting inner peace.

My relationship was failing, I felt tense all the time. My self-esteem and confidence hit rock bottom. I’m sure you can relate – heartbreak does little to nourish the heart and soul.

I had nothing to lose, so I tried this free breathwork video, and the results were incredible.

But before we go any further, why am I telling you about this?

I’m a big believer in sharing – I want others to feel as empowered as I do. And, if it worked for me, it could help you too. 

Rudá hasn’t just created a bog-standard breathing exercise – he is cleverly combined his many years of breathwork practice and shamanism to create this incredible flow – and it’s free to take part in. 

If you feel a disconnect with yourself due to fear of society’s judgments and expectations, I’d recommend checking out Rudá’s free breathwork video.

Click here to watch the video.

8) You desire sexual experience with females rather than males

You may have little interest in guys in your life or in having sex with them, even if you’ve been in many relationships with them.

Hence, as you probably know, it is high time to examine your emotions toward women, since that is proof you are not straight.

You may have a long past with men, including marriage and children.

But if the notion of being with a guy doesn’t thrill or delight you, keep in mind that your sexuality is not determined by your relationship history.

It involves a great deal more than how you feel, who you connect with, and how your emotional needs are addressed.

You might still be confused about your sexuality and wonder if this is not just a passing phase. 

So, continue reading to find out other symptoms of non-straight sexuality and check yourself on them.

The next sign is a complement to this indication and may be a further confirmation for you.

9) Orgasms are easier to achieve when you are with women only

If your orgasms are more intense and enjoyable when you are with a woman rather than with a man, then this is an indication that you might be non-straight.

You may find yourself unable to achieve an orgasm with someone of the hetero gender, or find it less intense than when you are with a same-gender one.

As a non-straight female, you may find a great deal of sexual pleasure in intimate relationships with women.

And, it is something to be taken into account when you are wondering about your sexuality.

You might wonder if you are lesbian or bisexual, but the truth is it could be both.

You can check this out by trying different sexual activities with men and women – especially if you want to test your sexuality.

In conclusion

After having checked yourself out with this article, it is a great idea to ask yourself again for self-confirmation:

Are you a straight female?

If so, good for you! If not, that is okay too!

Sexual orientation is as individual and unique as we are.

I hope you’ve found this article incredibly useful. I’d love it if you could share it with anyone or introduce my article to those who are in need of their sexuality confirmation.