Right after the breakup with your girlfriend or wife, in the short term, you may feel a sense of relief.
After all, you can now focus on yourself. You can spend more time with friends and family. You might even think, “I can finally start dating again!”
However, hindsight is 20/20, and you’ll eventually realize that losing her was a huge mistake and feel regret over what might have been.
Here’re 17 signs that you’ll unquestionably regret letting your girlfriend or wife go:
1) She made you a better man
She challenged you to be a better person. You may have ignored her, but you didn’t ignore the lessons she taught you.
She taught you how to be a better friend, boyfriend, and husband. She made you a more understanding and compassionate person.
We may not admit it, but most of us need someone to help us grow as people. We may not want to be who we’re when we know everything about ourselves.
Yes, you read that right!
We want to change for the better. We need someone who can show us where our blind spots are and then guide us through correcting them and improving ourselves even further.
She may have nagged, criticized, and hurt you, but she was always trying to help you. You’ll regret losing her because she made you a better person.
She taught you about compassion, strength, love, and passion. You changed for the better because of her.
You may not realize it right now, but her influence touched you in many ways. You’ll miss that influence once it’s gone.
2) You can’t stand talking about the split
If you’ve previously opened up about what went wrong in your past relationship and why you decided to leave, you may skip this stage.
If you’re unable to address it or feel highly uncomfortable discussing details about it, it’s most likely because you have not completely accepted it.
You just can’t stand mentioning your breakup and how to reconcile with her. This is one of the most obvious signs that you feel remorse!
If you do not want to talk about it or feel uncomfortable talking about it, who is the loser?
You’ve lost her…and a girl like her is always hard to get. You are already behind her back.
3) She helped you overcome your fears
She taught you how to be more assertive, courageous, and self-confident. She encouraged you to face your insecurities and overcome them.
She made you feel strong, powerful, and honorable. She entertained you, cheered you on, and helped you push your limits.
She was there for you when you were trying to quit smoking, get over an ex-girlfriend or wife, improve your career, or find happiness in life.
She believed in you even when no one else did!
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4) You’re stuck in your two’s memories
Can’t move on.
Are you still stuck with all those good memories with her?
If so, congratulations! You might be experiencing remorse.
You and your ex-lover got along splendidly. So, what exactly happened?
You have been stuck with your two past good memories lately. You recall how lovely she was and how much fun you two spent together.
Nostalgia may be overpowering, particularly if you’re still trying hard to get over a breakup.
You’re in deep denial and believe you’ll get together with her again.
Conversely, if you can’t get yourself to stop thinking about how good things used to be, that’s another sign that you’re experiencing remorse.
You’ll always look back at the first happy period of your relationship and remember it fondly.
5) No girl can arouse your attention
You’re completely obsessed with being in love but can’t think of what to do next.
Nothing matters to you…what could be more important than holding on to her?
Before you know it, you’re in the same situation as before your girlfriend/wife left you. You don’t want a relationship again, yet you crave attention from women.
Inability to feel attraction to someone might be caused by a number of factors, including a decline in sexual desire, depression, or a lack of self-confidence as a result of being trapped in a previous relationship.
Believe it or not,
You may experience regret for losing her!
If you’re experiencing no emotions and you’re completely detached from any girl, then there’s one reason and one reason only:
You’re still thinking that she would have been a good partner for you.
6) You already feel really lonely
You’re often lonely and this is because you feel that you can’t leave her even though you don’t want to be with her anymore.
Why does this happen?
You weren’t expecting to be lonely so fast. In fact, you didn’t anticipate feeling lonely at all.
If you are already lonely, you may be one step closer to experiencing remorse.
But don’t be disheartened. Sure, she satisfied the majority of your requirements, yet something made you withdraw.
Don’t allow loneliness or remorse to prevent you from determining why you decided to leave her.
Alternatively, instead of lying there feeling lonely, let’s work on yourselves!
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7) She’s an understanding lover
She never condemns you for previous errors, but rather, when needed, warns you of what not to do in the future.
She never blames you for past mistakes; instead, she offers advice about the future. She’s patient and will wait for you to get over your bad habits.
She’s someone who doesn’t want to change you; instead, she wants you to change yourself.
That’s what makes her an amazing lover. She encourages you to become a better man, understand your own self-worth and find happiness in life.
She knows how to love you unconditionally, sometimes even more than you know how to love yourselves.
When you’re faced with a challenge, she pulls you in and doesn’t let you leave until it’s done. She’s your cheerleader, your bodyguard, and your inspiration.
You can’t find that kind of love in anyone else! Your girlfriend or wife loves you for who you’re not what she wants you to be.
You’ll never find that anywhere else!
Therefore, it’s unquestionable that you’ll regret losing her.
8) You keep asking her friends about her
Now, for this one, you can’t hide behind any excuse.
You simply can’t help but ask her friends about her.
It’s a natural tendency to find out how your ex is doing. Whether she has found someone else or if she’s still missing you.
However, if you keep asking her friends about her, it’s a sure sign that you will regret letting go of her.
Her friends may get the hint and feel like giving you the cold shoulder.
They don’t want to tell you anything because they know it only prevents you from getting over her.
9) You break up with her just because you were bored
Boredom isn’t a good cause to end a relationship unless it’s dragging you down to the point of fatigue.
So, if this is your case, I firmly believe that you’ll soon regret leaving your girlfriend or wife!
Many guys leave a solid relationship solely because they believe it’s no longer as “exciting” as it was when they first began.
Believe it or not,
This only makes them get stuck in an endless loop!
Because boredom signifies a lack of stimulation, and if you rely on your girlfriend to keep you aroused all the time, it’s not her fault.
Boredom actually originates from your lack of determination to make things interesting.
You must take personal responsibility for this problem and stop blaming it on your partner.
10) You’re well aware that you’ve messed up
You were dating the perfect partner. You had everything you ever wanted in life.
She was a loving, loyal, funny companion who made you feel stronger and more confident than ever before.
But then… you messed up! And you blame her for your mistakes!
Hence, when she left you, it’s because “you’re no longer happy” and that “this relationship isn’t what it used to be.”
The truth is:
You’re not the same man either!
Playing the blame game is not a worthwhile thing to do. However, if you know you did anything that upset her, you may feel guilty.
When you screw up, you usually apologize for it.
However, you can’t because you had broken up with her, or you won’t because you believe it wouldn’t make any difference.
This is undeniably a sign that you will be sorry for losing her.
Although guilt and regret are distinct concepts, they’re inextricably linked.
Both imply that you blame yourself for something you did or did not do and that you wonder how things may have turned out if you had done differently.
11) You can’t seem to quit thinking about her
When we break up with someone, it hurts. It hurts bad!
All we want to do is to forget about the memories and that person, but that’s easier said than done. Most of us keep thinking about them for a long time.
Unfortunately, this is not a good thing because it actually negatively affects our peace of mind and it makes us feel much worse!
If you’re still thinking about your ex-girlfriend/wife even though she has left you…, then you might regret losing her.
Because the more you think about your ex, the more you miss her. The longer you miss her, the harder it’ll be to find someone else.
And if you find someone, that person won’t be as good as she was!
So stop thinking about her, stop missing her, and start moving on! You may regret losing your ex-wife/ex-girlfriend…, but there’s nothing you can do about it now.
12) She constantly appears in your dream
Despite the fact that she’s no longer in your life, you keep dreaming about her.
If you still have feelings for her and wonder why you can’t get her out of your mind, this is another sign that you will experience remorse.
Dreaming about her can be your way of imagining getting her back.
Or you may have a strong feeling of guilt that drives you to dream about her.
In short, it’s not easy to let go of your feelings toward her because the feelings are strongly embedded in your subconscious mind.
13) You begin to develop negative behaviors
You may not have noticed, but you’re going through something new right now. I’m talking about the fact that you’re not with her.
You may get drunk more frequently, or you may sort to cigarettes to temporarily get over your negative thoughts.
I’m sorry to inform you that this is an indication that regrets are on the way.
This is a first for you, but sooner or later, you’ll realize that there’re so many things to do!
However, is it too late for you? Not at all! So, I’m also thrilled.
Because the agony of regret may lead to refocusing and taking remedial action or turning over a new leaf.
So, even though the symptoms indicate you experiencing remorse, this might be a wonderful thing.
It all comes down to how you handle this circumstance.
Believe me when I say I know how it feels to be without your ex-girlfriend/wife. I was in a similar situation, and I know how to get out of that situation and move on.
So, I can do it and you as well!
14) You frequently check up on her social media
- Can’t keep yourself from scrolling through her profile on social media.
- You comment and like without missing any of her posts.
- You’re always one of those people who first check her posts.
- You always find yourself getting stuck in her posts’ captions or status.
Does this sound familiar?
If you’ve checked any of these behaviors, you definitely will regret losing her!
Consider the following questions:
- Why do you continue to look at her online profiles if you no longer desire her in your life?
- Why do you want to know how she’s doing if you’re no longer in love with her?
These apparently innocuous activities are actually really harmful to your health and signal that you may experience regret in the future.
Don’t do this to yourself! Move on with your life, and the best way to do that’s by deleting her from your social media.
If you can’t live without her, then why are you thinking of deleting her?
You’re not living without her because you’re still thinking of her. And if you want to get over her, stop doing that!
So, if you’re serious about leaving her, bear in mind that:
Scrolling through her posts and photos is a harmful habit that might lead to regret.
15) You don’t feel like partying at all
Post-breakup, you went to party after party and had a good time enjoying it from dusk till dawn.
You felt youthful, vibrant, and self-assured and believe you deserve better following the split.
However, things have changed.
You feel tired and exhausted just thinking about going out to party. You know it’s not the right time for a party but you can’t help but feel like staying at home and relaxing.
Does this sound familiar?
A generally uninterested in partying is another sign of remorse.
Do you know why? If you can’t bear to go out with friends, there must be something wrong with yourself that makes you decide not to go out and have fun.
If you’re uninterested in partying and have been through a breakup, then stop yourself from feeling down and give yourself some time.
Sometimes, it’s normal to feel abnormal.
You’ll probably be experiencing remorse at this stage because you feel uncomfortable with socializing after the breakup.
Just remember that:
You are not alone if you’re still having trouble getting over a breakup.
It’s a familiar story, and it usually goes like this.
16) You always willing to give her your assistance and support
You’re still on the lookout for any opportunity to help her.
You may still get together for coffee and end up giving her advice, suggesting solutions, and making decisions for her.
That’s why you feel like she’s always there with you.
Because of that, it turns out to be difficult for you to completely let go of your ex.
Nobody denies the fact that a breakup is a very tough time for both partners.
But, when you’re still in love with her and feeling remorse, it’ll be hard to let go of your emotions and start focusing on your new life.
If such is your experience, you’re probably not ready to let go of her and will regret losing her.
Sometimes it’s difficult to get over someone whom we’ve been through so much with, isn’t it?
17) You can’t stop contacting her
You’re still feeling guilty.
You’re constantly texting her. You’re wondering what’s wrong with you and why you keep sending her messages and calling her.
After all, she broke up with you, so why do you still feel like talking to her?
You are failing to stop contacting her and sending her messages.
If this stage is familiar to you, it’s pretty clear that you’re experiencing remorse about losing your ex-girlfriend/wife!
You simply can’t let go of your ex and feel like she’s still a part of your life even though she has already gone.
You still feel the urge to check whether she is doing well.
Or in short, you still care about her a lot…
When we’re young, dating seems like a joyous adventure. We’ve all the time in the world to fall in love and explore our new partner. We tend to be less worried and more open.
So, most of us think that post-breakup emotions are normal feelings and we’ll be able to recover quickly from them.
But, if you’ve checked many signs of the list above, you’ll definitely regret losing her.
As we get older, the realities of adult life start to set in. We must then realize that there are not so many opportunities for us to try, and maybe there’s only one who can be our “Ms. Right”.