Did you know that negative energy can have a serious impact on your quality of life, productivity, and even physical health?
While it might not seem like too big of a deal at first, it is vital to know how to identify when someone’s acting in a negative way.
If you suspect that someone is acting negatively towards you or others, try looking for these 15 signs — we’re sure you’ll be able to tell the difference.
Read on for more information about this fascinating topic!
1) They never want to cooperate
Negative people are always looking for a way to get ahead of others.
They never want to take part in a group activity or help someone out with a project.
All they’ll ever do is try to find ways to avoid these things, so they can be selfish and act the way they want while everyone else is forced to deal with their negative attitude.
When I worked in a design firm, we had to work together on a lot of projects.
One person in the office (we’ll call him Bob) was always the first to come up with an excuse to get out of doing his fair share of work.
If he wasn’t actually avoiding work, he’d make passive-aggressive comments about how much others weren’t doing — even though he himself was clearly not doing his fair share!
He seemed to be looking for any way possible to avoid working with other people and being a team player.
2) They always make excuses
I know that everyone makes mistakes, but negative people never seem to be able to own up to them.
Instead, they’ll find any way possible to make excuses for their mistakes.
They use anything and everything as an excuse so that they don’t have to take responsibility for what they did.
When someone’s making excuses constantly, it’s usually a sign that they don’t feel bad about their actions at all— or even worse, that they’re actually trying to manipulate you or others around them!
For example, I once worked with a girl who would always find an excuse for being late.
If she was late, it meant she was talking with a friend or watching TV, or that her mom kept her up at night and she couldn’t get any sleep — anything but accepting responsibility for the fact that she just wasn’t showing up on time.
3) Always saying “no”
Negative people are quick to point out what they don’t like.
They constantly complain about their surroundings, the weather, and everything else around them.
Rather than trying to figure out solutions, they’re always making comments that can be considered a form of negativity.
If you have a problem with something, try looking for ways to improve or fix it in a positive way.
You’ll be surprised at how much difference it can make!
Rather than saying “yes” to every little thing you’re asked (or want) to do, negative people will almost always say “no”.
They’ll find excuses to avoid doing things that they don’t want to do.
Not only will this slow down their own progress, it will also result in them putting off projects because they’re so afraid of being overloaded.
Negative people will avoid making the commitment since they know that if they say “yes” and take on a new project, it makes it harder for them to get out of things later on down the line.
4) Constantly talking about the past
Negative people get easily irritated by their past experiences.
They’re constantly telling you about all the bad things that have happened to them.
If you keep hearing about everything that went wrong for them in the past, it’s hard to imagine how they don’t get even more upset by these incidents on a regular basis!
If someone keeps talking about the negative parts of their life, try asking how they’re planning to fix these problems when they arise again. They will make more excuses and in the end, come with no solution.
For example, maybe someone is having trouble with a teacher who isn’t grading fairly.
If they keep talking about how awful this person is, it means that they aren’t doing anything about it.
Rather than constantly talking about how bad everything was in the past, try looking for ways to get better by changing the problem.
5) Unwillingness to see the good in a situation or help fix it
Negativity is easy to spot when you see someone refusing to see the positive things in a situation.
For example, a family member could complain that their job is going downhill, saying that they’ve never been treated so poorly before.
If you try to make them see the good side of things, they’ll almost always find ways to turn the conversation into something negative.
This isn’t a healthy way to look at things, and often has negative consequences for everyone involved.
Rather than listening for problems, try focusing on finding solutions instead — there’s always hope for improvement!
6) Always being tired or tired all the time
Let’s face it: we all get tired sometimes.
We don’t always feel like doing everything we have to do, and sometimes we’d rather be at home than out in public.
But negative people are never willing to try something new, and will always complain about how they don’t want to be anything but home!
They’ll always say that they’re tired, or that they aren’t feeling well — it’s as if being sick is the only thing that will ever keep them from going out.
When you hear someone complaining about this all the time, it’s usually a sign of something deeper. Rather than finding ways to get better, they just seem to want to be unhappy and stay put.
7) Attitude of most “I’m right and everyone else is wrong”
Negative people are always looking for excuses to be right in their opinion.
They’re not concerned with listening to the other side of the argument, or seeing what others’ ideas are.
They just want to be right, so that they feel like they have control over something — even if they don’t have anything positive on their minds.
The goal is that they’re always doing something “wrong”, so that they can feel good about themselves no matter what happens.
If anyone has a different opinion, they’ll quickly find ways to change the subject.
If you’re around someone who’s constantly making excuses for being “wrong”, try asking why they’ve given up on finding out what the truth is.
8) Excess self-pity or aggressive behavior when faced with problems
When I think back to the person who had this trait, I can’t help but think of one of my friends who got extremely upset when her parents cut her off, even though she’s already graduated.
Whenever she was in an argument with them about this, it seemed like everything would just get worse and worse until she started arguing with everyone else in the house.
She’d say that everyone was horrible and that if they didn’t agree with her ideas they were all stupid. She’d try to manipulate the situation to her side so that she could be right.
If someone else said anything negative about her, she would get extremely upset and cry. She’d always feel like she’s the victim of things that have happened in the past, and refuse to do anything about it herself.
9) Care about a few things, but spend most of their time complaining about them
Negative people usually have a few major things that they complain about every day. If you pay a lot of attention to them, it’ll be easy to see what these topics are (it’ll usually be about other people, or something that happened in their past).
These are the things that they’re constantly thinking about and dwelling on, and it will often affect the way they behave towards others.
They could say something kind to you one second, but turn around and treat someone else really poorly after being reminded of something negative.
10) Loss of motivation
Sometimes, it’s not so easy to tell if someone is negative or not.
That’s because being negative isn’t always about saying something about a particular situation or complaining about something.
It can be as simple as the fact that they have a bad mood most of the time, and refuse to get motivated by anything unless they’re in the mood for something.
If this is the case, their lack of motivation will eventually rub off on everyone else as well.
Some negative people will even go so far as to try and spread their view on things by telling everyone else that something is wrong or bad.
This isn’t a way to help others, this is a way to make sure that everyone else suffers as well.
11) Bad relationships with others
Negative people tend to take a negative attitude towards everyone around them.
This makes them the easiest to make fun of or even bully because they don’t seem to be able to take a joke or appreciate anyone else’s kindness.
No one wants to hang out with someone who’s always saying negative things, although it can be hard seeing their kind-hearted friend having so many problems in their life.
Sometimes people who are negative will make you feel bad about yourself as well, just by being around them all the time.
They’ll make you feel like there’s something wrong with you, or that no one will ever like you for who you are in their presence.
If you’re around this type of person all the time, it can be really difficult to feel good about yourself and happy.
12) Dark circles under the eyes
Dark circles under the eyes are a form of negativity that can easily be spotted by others.
When someone gets to a point where they’re always complaining and not looking towards the future, they’ll lose all enthusiasm for things that they used to enjoy or look forward to.
If a person is always in a bad mood, it tends to show on their face as well.
Their skin can appear dry, wrinkly, and more aged than it really is.
If you’re talking about an older individual who isn’t taking care of themselves, this could be an indication that they have health problems or are simply feeling out of sorts from being around negative people all the time .
13) Aversion to touch
Negative people don’t like to be touched, or even have their hands held. If you ask for a hug or a handshake, they’ll be surprised, before refusing any help at all.
They’ll sometimes even rush away from those who try to touch them.
Negative people have a difficult time feeling any kind of affection when someone else approaches them.
They might even push people away from them whenever they try to touch them. If you’re around someone who’s constantly trying to get away from hugs, try asking why they don’t like normal forms of affection.
14) Overreacting to minor frustrations
People who talk primarily about the negative side of things tend to feel that any little thing is a major problem.
Everything has the potential to upset them, so they react over-reactive to anything that bothers them.
They’ll start yelling at people, or even take their frustration out on themselves. Rather than trying to find solutions, they just end up finding ways to make their problems worse as time goes on.
15) Withdrawal from activities
Negative people can’t stand being around others who are happy.
They always feel that they’re better than everyone else, so they don’t want to be around anyone who tries to make them feel bad about themselves.
In order to avoid this, negative people will often try and stay away from everyone else by taking part in fewer activities and staying home more often.
If you’re constantly being told that you’re a bad person, or that everyone thinks that you give out negative energy, it’s hard to accept their view on things.
How to cope with people who have negative energy?
The good news is that even though negative people tend to spread their negativity pretty quickly, it’s easy to get rid of it.
If you’re worried about the ones around you, asking them what’s wrong will be the best way to help them in case they’re feeling bad about themselves.
- Try telling them that whatever’s bothering them isn’t worth thinking about.
- Reminding them of their strengths and the fact that you appreciate their kind nature will always help change their attitude towards things.
If you’re having a hard time with negative people, try to change the environment around you.
Be more positive by surrounding yourself with people who are happy, and avoid being around loud and angry people.
If you do have to deal with a person who’s constantly complaining or spreading negativity, try telling them how their attitude is affecting those around them.
If this doesn’t change anything between the two of you, be prepared to cut them out of your life.
You may not want to do this, but if someone is draining you of energy and making it impossible for you to be happy or positive about things, it’s best for both of you to just go your separate ways.
In order to replace them with someone who’s happy, try to surround yourself with more positive people.
You might even try using these ideas yourself in order to find ways of being happier and appreciating all of the things around you.
What to do if you are the one that gives out negative energy?
If you’re the one who’s always giving out negative energy, try to ask yourself why you need to be so negative.
Is it because you feel like people are only around you because they want something from you?
Do you feel uncomfortable around people in general? Or maybe your whole life is just a constant struggle of never feeling good enough.
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Negative people are always going to be a part of our lives.
They’re easy to spot, but also hard to deal with.
Sometimes we might feel like there’s no point in trying to talk to them or help them change their behavior, but you can’t just let someone’s bad attitude go on forever.
While they might make sure everyone around them experiences the worst in life, they don’t realize what they’ve done until it’s too late.
Being around someone who’s negative will always have an impact on you, so it’s important that you learn how to cope with this kind of person.
If you realize that you possess several of the signs that I mentioned previously, you most likely possess a lot of negative energy and should learn how to change it.
Let’s use this article as a guide on how to deal with people who are negative in any situation and make it a positive experience.