Women are funny creatures. We don’t always understand them, and honestly, they often don’t understand themselves. I mean, one day they are the sweetest, most gentle person you’ve ever met. The next day, they are like completely different people.
So, how to solve this mystery? How do you know if this woman you’ve been dating is still interested in you or not?
Truthfully, there is always some sort of red flags. Unfortunately, men don’t always recognize these signs, because they’re different for every girl.
Don’t worry, I’ve put together this list of 15 definite signs that a woman is keeping her distance from you. So, if you are reading this and finding it similar to how your girl is behaving lately, well, chances are she is keeping her distance from you.
Let’s dive in!
1) She cares less about her appearance.
The truth is that most women when they are interested in you, especially in the early stages, they try their best to look good for you. Period.
This can be anything from putting on makeup, fixing their hair, or even wearing more attractive clothes. However, if you start noticing that she is not into her looks anymore, chances are that she is losing interest.
Think about it like this, if she’s not interested in you anymore, why would she spend so much time and effort to impress you?
2) There is no chemistry between you.
Affection is a must-have between two people when they are in love and if you don’t have it anymore, that is a sign of an unhappy relationship.
Let me give you some examples:
3) She no longer wants to sleep with you.
When being in a relationship, it’s a very important thing for both the man and woman to like and enjoy each other’s company. Avoiding sexual contact is a clear sign that there is something wrong.
4) She doesn’t want to be touched.
A woman that is interested in you will always try to get as close to you as possible. She will want to touch and kiss you, hold your hand, and hug you. If her kisses and hugs became mechanical and emotionless, there is a problem.
5) She avoids any eye contact.
Eye contact is very important in communication and if a woman doesn’t look at you, it’s the beginning of the end.
6) She gets angry very often.
If you start noticing that she is always angry with you or even just not talking to you for no reason, it’s a clear sign that she doesn’t like how things are going anymore and she might be looking for a way to break things up.
It’s pretty obvious once you think about it if she blames you for everything and gets angry way too easily, then she doesn’t want you in her life anymore.
7) She stops talking about her future life together.
The fact is, all girls are all about making plans, dreaming about their future together, etc.
However, if you start noticing that she is not making any plans for the future, that she is even getting upset when you try to discuss your future, or if she starts avoiding talking about your relationship, then this is a clear sign that this might be an end for her.
Think I’m exaggerating?
Well, girls can be too scared to talk about what will happen with you two in 20 years, but trust me, if a girl wants to be around you, she still will be making plans.
We all want to be with someone that we can at least imagine spending the rest of our lives with.
8) If you have a conflict, she easily gives in.
Here’s the deal, if arguments over little things become frequent, that is a bad sign. It’s normal to have some just minor disagreements, but arguments over little things should be avoided.
The bottom line is that during these conflicts, she gives in easily and doesn’t stand up for herself, and shows a lack of respect towards you, she is tired of fighting and is ready to give up on her relationship with you.
The next one might not surprise you but it’s a clear sign of her keeping her distance.
9) She doesn’t talk to you anymore.
Emotional distancing often is a sign of a relationship that is going bad.
The fact is, most girls love to tell their partners about their day, gossip about some colleagues, or just share thoughts and feelings. And if you haven’t heard from her for a few days and she is also avoiding your calls… well, chances are that she is losing interest.
Ask yourself honestly:
- Has any topic that involves her personal life or a conflict with another person become off-limits?
- Has she stopped asking you personal questions or asking for your opinion and advice?
- When you two are together, she avoids talking to you and is constantly on her phone?
- does she suddenly become ‘too busy’ to see you or even worse, she cancels on you constantly?
- If something important happened, you are the last to hear about it?
Do you see where we’re going with this?
It all boils down to the fact that the relationship is losing its spark and there is an end on the horizon.
10) She hangs out with her friends more.
It is that simple, you are weeded out of her social circle.
This is a very good red flag as long as you notice this behavior within the first few months of your relationship.
If she was going out with her friends before, but just not as often, and she started going out with them a lot more frequently, then it might be a sign that there is someone new in her life.
11) She doesn’t share photos of you on her social media.
Let’s admit, that we are living in the 21st century, where social media plays a huge role in our lives. And everyone now is constantly updating their Facebook feed, and Instagram stories with pictures of them, having fun, or just hanging out together.
Here’s the scary part, if you feel that she doesn’t share any photos of you on her social media, especially if she used to update it every second, then there is something wrong here.
Because at the end of the day, we all want to show off a little and share our happiness with others.
Stick with me on the next one, because you might be surprised.
12) She begins to criticize you and compare you to others.
If all of a sudden your girl becomes more critical and negative towards you than she used to be, for things that she didn’t have issues with before, it’s a clear sign that she is no longer interested in you.
It’s very easy to notice this behavior because it’s happened often enough for you to recognize it. On the other hand, it’s not that common that she start to criticize you and every little thing you do.
She might even admit not liking any of your traits or attributes as a person and would proceed to compare you to some other person.
13) She doesn’t want to spend time with you anymore.
Let me ask you, are you still spending as much time together as you had in the past?
If you said yes, skip this sign and move to the next point.
But if you said no, just stick with me here.
Here are a few situations that might be familiar:
- She makes excuses for not going out with you often enough or as much as she used to. If you used to spend all the time together, having fun and enjoying each other’s company, but now she is constantly busy and she doesn’t even attempt to try to make more time for you, then it’s a clear sign that she’s losing interest.
- She’s coming home very late from work. If she comes home very late from work, especially if this is new behavior for her, it might be a sign that she doesn’t want you to spend much time with her. It could be that she is trying to avoid you or just doesn’t have the energy anymore to keep up with the facade.
14) She forgets the big and little things.
Women are sentimental creatures and they cannot help but notice and remember any changes in a relationship. Like your favorite food, anniversaries, birthdays, or even the way she likes to be called when she’s mad.
Things that she used to do and appreciate before, and now it’s like she no longer cares about them. If she doesn’t remember what you did for her, what you gave her, that is a definite sign that she’s keeping you very distant.She is ignoring rituals.
Many couples have a set of rituals that they have gotten used to over the years.
For example, if you have a little ritual to text before you go to bed, or have a movie night every Friday, or have a morning coffee together, but suddenly she is not doing those things anymore.
That might be a signal that she is losing interest in you and your time together, in particular.
15) She doesn’t care anymore.
Girls who are in love with you are always thinking about you, making excuses for you, and doing things for you just because they want to make you happy. Relationships are their priority.
If she doesn’t care about you anymore and is ready to let go of the relationship, she will begin to stop showing interest in your life and not make any plans on her own.
This typically involves:
- one-worded, dry and emotionless answers,
- avoiding eye contact and intimacy,
- generally acting uninterested and indifferent,
- not texting you or if her replies are getting shorter and shorter,
- not making plans without you,
- not saying “I love you” first.
But you know what else?
16) She starts flirting with others.
If she is suddenly flirting with someone else, it’s a clear sign that there is a new guy in her life.
It might be hard to believe at first but if you notice this kind of behavior, then you can probably trust your gut feeling.
17) You just know.
Sometimes you just know, intuition is our best friend. You might not want to accept the fact that she became distant for a reason, but the truth is, she just became less interested in you.
All in all, sometimes it’s hard to accept that your girl is keeping her distance, especially when you are trying to get a girl back.
We all want to believe that we are in love with her and that there is still hope for us, but if you notice any of those signs above and she is still not changing her thoughts on you, then it’s time for you to move on.
But wait, that’s not it.
I have given you a complete list of definite signs a woman is keeping her distance from you, but I am 100% sure you are wondering what are the reasons behind why she suddenly acts like this, right?
Glad you asked because I am going to share with you the most accurate reason for explaining her behavior.
So let’s get down to business, here are the most common reasons why she’s keeping her distance:
She thinks you’re playing her or generally not interested.
You may think she is just not interested in you, but she doubts your intentions and thinks you are playing her. She thinks you are just going to leave her at any moment, so she starts acting distant and cold towards you.
Basically, she is trying to figure out if she would be wasting her time if she gave you a chance.
She’s not sure about her feelings.
She is confused, she is trying to sort out her feelings toward you. She wants to know if her feelings are real or just a one-sided attraction. She is trying to figure out if she’s willing to take a risk and open up to you.
She is testing you.
Let’s face it, we all are players. And she’s no exception, she is testing you and your reaction. She wants to know if she can trust you if you are worth her time if there is a future for them.
Some girls distance themselves to see if you’ll actually miss them or if it won’t matter to you.
The secret is they want to find out how much effort the person is willing to put into winning her back.
She’s scared of being rejected.
This is the most common one. Most women are afraid of being hurt or rejected, they are afraid to take a risk.
And they ask themselves, what if..?:
- “What if I love him more than he loves me?”
- “What if I feel something deeper than he does but he rejects me because of it?”
- “What if he doesn’t care about me and I need to be with him?”
Strictly speaking, she is afraid that if things don’t work out, it will break her emotionally, and she really doesn’t want to feel this way again.
You two have history.
Imagine, you both have known each other for a while. You were great friends and then, she just fell for you. You may have even almost dated, but it didn’t work out. Now you both are trying to figure out a way to rekindle the flame.
My point is that she just wants to be sure this time everything will be different, so she’s taking it slow.
She hasn’t moved on from her previous relationships.
She may, in a sense, be afraid of moving on to her next relationship because she doesn’t want to risk being hurt again.
She just wants to be sure that the new guy is perfect for her, she is going to give it her all and move on.
It’s not that she doesn’t want to get over her ex, but instead of making a big decision in a rush, she knows she will take more time and that’s okay.
She doesn’t want to scare you away.
This is more common than you think. Some girls can be a bit shy and don’t want to pressure you too much, so they distance themselves because they don’t want to make you uncomfortable by being too clingy and forceful about their feelings for you.
Instead of going for that kiss, she waits for you to make a move instead of making it too obvious. It’s a way to protect her feelings, to not be rejected in the end.
She is genuinely busy.
Ok, here’s a big idea, she might be actually busy.
Maybe she has a lot of friends, and big social life, or maybe she just started her job and has to work late. Whatever the case, the fact is she is busy, but she’s not trying to hide it.
There’s someone else on the scene.
This one is obvious, right? She’s not interested in you at all, she’s interested in someone else. It’s easy to spot a woman attentive to another male like her friends, but she doesn’t want to hurt you, so she keeps her distance.
She is losing attraction to you.
Yes, you heard me right. It happens to everyone.
When a woman meets a man that she’s interested in and suddenly the attraction starts dropping off, she may start acting distant.
This is because of wrong communication or the fact that you two don’t spend enough time together, maybe it’s just all too much for her at once and she wants to slow things down or maybe she just doesn’t see a future with you anymore.
She’s not ready to be in a relationship.
And, the last one, maybe she’s just not ready to have a relationship right now, or maybe she just doesn’t see herself with you in the long run. A woman can be attracted to you and still not ready at the same time.
In a nutshell, being in a relationship is a big commitment for both of you, and if you start noticing some change in her behavior, you should respect her boundaries and wait for the right moment. Don’t push too far, just be patient.
Yes, not all relationships end up happily ever after, but at least you will know that you tried your best.
One day she’ll come back to you and if that girl means a lot to you, take the time to be a better man for her.
Trust me, you’ll get through this.