There are certain signs that a man is fed up in a relationship, and if you’re paying attention, you’ll be able to notice them and make some adjustments before things go too far.
We know that it’s not easy to hear sometimes, but it’s better than being blindsided by the inevitable.
Here are 18 no bullsh*t signs a man is fed up in a relationship (complete list).
1) He has a different routine that goes against what he usually does
Think about this for a moment:
When things are going well between you and your significant other, then you tend to do the same things together, or the same routine even.
This routine is a subconscious thing that we develop when we’re in a relationship because it’s nice knowing about what will happen every day.
But when a man is fed up with a relationship, his routines change. He doesn’t want to be bothered with the mundane activities anymore and he begins to do what he wants and needs to do.
For example, he doesn’t want to go out with you anymore and he just wants to stay home and watch TV or play video games or whatever it is that he usually does with his friends.
2) The sex has been less frequent or reduced to him trying to please you
Another indicator that a man is fed up in a relationship is if the sex has become less frequent or he only has sex with you to please you.
You can sense that he’s trying to please you, and while you can get used to it after a while, his mind is already thinking “I’m tired of doing this. I want my freedom back.”
Whatever it is that your man needs to finish this relationship, he has already begun the process of ending it and he just wants to make sure that you’re okay while he’s doing it.
3) You feel like the relationship is one-sided
There’s a balance that needs to be struck when you’re in a relationship, and if it feels like one side is stronger than the other then this is an issue that should be addressed.
It takes two to tango and if one person doesn’t want to be there then there’s a problem.
And that’s a sign that a man is fed up with a relationship.
It’s not just about a man who doesn’t want to be in the relationship anymore, but it’s also about you too.
If you know that you’re tired of the…ahem…duties of a relationship, or maybe you’re tired of playing mommy all the time while your partner doesn’t do his fair share, then this is also grounds for concern.
So before things get too far, make sure to address any issues you have rationally with each other.
4) He’s spending a lot of time with his friends or family and not telling you about it
You might be wondering:
“Why is my man hiding things from me?”
And the answer is simple:
He wants to be free.
You might think that he’s doing it to avoid spending time with you or to keep things from being awkward, but the truth is that his friends and family are often a lot of fun and he wants to be around them more.
He might also be hiding things from you because he doesn’t want to end things before they’re finished, so he just wants to get it over with.
Sometimes men need a little bit of emotional distance before they can truly make their decision.
5) He speaks about how much better things were before you came into his life
Have you ever heard a man say that he wishes things could go back to the way that they were before you came into his life?
I know it’s kind of a hard pill to swallow, but if he’s saying this now then it means that he’s already getting fed up in your relationship.
He can say something like “Life was so much better when you didn’t really bother me, and everything was easy. I don’t have to deal with you now”.
Or it could be “I don’t understand why things started going so wrong after you came into my life. We used to be so happy and you ruined it.”
He can also imply things like “If it weren’t for you, then I wouldn’t be like this.”
Whatever it is that he says, he’s already starting to change his thinking about his life. You see, as a man, he has an image of what he thinks his life should be like.
6) He’s only happy when he is alone and doing something for himself
When a man is fed up in a relationship, he’ll often start doing things for himself again.
And this is what makes him happy and content. He gets his own space and he doesn’t have to worry about pleasing someone else anymore.
He’s happier when he knows that he can do whatever he wants whenever he wants to do it.
And it’s important for men to find this kind of freedom because as a woman, you’re literally built to be dependent on others and depending on others.
It’s very important to find that balance of dependency and independence.
If you’re completely dependent on your partner, then this can be a sign that you’re needy and you’re trying to control your partner.
7) He deflects when asked about his feelings on things
Have you ever found yourself in a conversation with a man who suddenly changes the subject when you ask him some personal questions about his feelings or his current situation?
He may even deny that you’re talking about him, but if he’s deflecting your questions, then you know that this is an issue and you need to address it.
For example, he might say something like:
“I don’t know what you mean. There’s nothing wrong with my relationship.” “There’s nothing wrong at all.”
A man who is fed up in a relationship will often act this way when people try to address the issue. He knows that there is something wrong, but he wants to do things on his own time.
He doesn’t want to be pushed into something. After all, he just doesn’t have the desire any longer and so thinking about this stuff is just going to make him angry or upset.
8) He will go to great lengths to avoid the topic of your relationship and/or disinterest in marriage or children
I know that this one is going to hurt, but it’s important to think about this one.
If you try to bring up the idea of marriage or children and he goes out of his way to avoid this topic, it means that he is already showing disinterest in your relationship.
If you’re a woman who wants a family and you’re concerned that your man won’t commit, then there’s something wrong. He might say something like:
“Let’s not talk about that right now.”
Or maybe he’ll say “Let’s wait until I get promoted before we start thinking about marriage and kids.”
Whatever it is that he says, it’s important to pay attention and try to understand where this is coming from.
If you push him into a corner then he’ll do everything within his power not to have that conversation with you again.
9) The quantity of his compliments has reduced tremendously
Men love to compliment women. If a man is really into you, then you’ll probably hear some really nice compliments coming your way.
But if he’s growing tired of the relationship, then this will change. He’ll start complimenting you less often, he’ll sometimes make fun of the relationship and he might even say things that are negative.
This is especially true if you’re trying to have a conversation about the relationship. Sometimes he’ll just make fun of it just to make the conversation go away.
Don’t fall for it though. He might seem funny or light-hearted, but behind it all, he’s actually getting sick of the relationship and he doesn’t want to be in it anymore.
But don’t only listen to him. Sometimes the people closest to you can have the biggest influence on your relationship. So, speak with your friends about the changes that he’s making in your relationship and see if they notice anything too.
10) He makes contemptuous comments about you to other people
If you find yourself constantly disrespected and belittled by your man, chances are that he’s getting sick of you.
Watch for subtle changes like looking away from you when you are talking, refusing to help you fix things, or laughing at your ideas.
When a man is getting progressively fed up with his relationship, he’ll often reflect this by making fun of his relationship in front of other people.
For instance, he might say something like: “Yeah, well, my wife sure is stupid.” or “She’s so controlling.”
But don’t pay attention to this too much. It could just be him trying to make a joke at your expense or it could mean that he’s really indifferent to you.
And keep in mind that don’t let this define you.
Some couples go through periods of time where they become extremely distant, but it doesn’t mean that the relationship is doomed. Stay positive, work on your connection, and you’ll be able to work things out.
11) You catch him checking other women out or talking to them
This is a major sign that your man is getting fed up with you and he’s thinking about going out and finding someone else.
He may be tempted by these other women, but try to keep in mind that this could be a way for him to prove to himself that there are other women out there. He wants to see if there’s something better out there for him.
You will find yourself in a situation where you are constantly on edge wondering if he has cheated or not.
You can end up being the example that he uses to determine if there are any other women out there that he’d rather be with.
12) He’s constantly snapping at you for the littlest of things
A man who is getting fed up with his relationship will often let his anger get the best of him.
For example, he easily gets annoyed with you for doing things that are completely harmless.
He will get angry and snap at you for doing things like forgetting to call or coming home a few minutes late from work.
Don’t fall for this trick though. He may think that his anger will push you away, but it often does the opposite. Instead of pushing you away, it only pushes you closer. After all, women are naturally drawn to this type of guy.
The real concern here is to discern whether or not he’s just being a jerk or if he’s actually trying to push you away.
If he’s just being a jerk, then you can try to lessen his anger over time. But if he’s trying to push you away, then you’ll want to consider ending the relationship.
Love yourself and don’t let yourself be mistreated.
13) He avoids eye contact with you and doesn’t seem receptive to your presence
I know the feeling:
You’re feeling the need to have a serious conversation about your relationship and you try to get him alone for the talk.
When you’re finally alone with him, he seems really uncomfortable and doesn’t really seem like he wants to be there. He won’t make eye contact with you, he seems distant and uninterested in what you have to say.
Sometimes this eye-contact avoidance is just a coincidence or a sign that he’s getting extremely anxious and nervous.
But sometimes it can be a way for him to push you away from his life.
It gets worse if this eye-contact avoidance seems to be a trend. And it gets even worse if he’s getting prickly with you or starting to make angry comments to you as well.
If it starts to feel like your relationship doesn’t have any real meaning for him, then maybe it’s time for you two to go your separate ways.
14) He makes unfriendly jokes about your friends, family
It can be easy to fall into a pattern of joking around that doesn’t really take the personal relationship seriously.
But sometimes this type of joking is actually a big sign that he isn’t really invested in you and the relationship.
He will make unfriendly jokes about your friends, or family, or even start making fun of you in front of your friends.
This is a lose-lose situation because if he’s being unfriendly, then this means that he isn’t invested in maintaining the relationship.
These jokes can be a way for him to push you away from your friends and family, or they can be a way for him to bring you closer to him so that he can have more control over you.
Either way, this type of joking is not good for the health of the relationship and is something that needs to be addressed.
15) He’s unwilling to revisit difficult topics or talk in circles through discussions
When you want to talk about something difficult with him, such as money concerns or the kids, he’ll refuse to give you an answer.
Instead of talking things through, he just makes a joke and changes the subject.
He’s avoiding difficult conversations because it makes him feel uncomfortable and because it’s not healthy to hold these types of conversations.
Besides being fed up in a relationship, there could be many reasons why your guy avoids communicating with you, such as:
- He doesn’t want to hurt you
- He doesn’t want to get into an argument with you
- He may think that he’s intentionally upsetting you because he wants to make a point, or because he wants to win an argument.
- He just doesn’t want to deal with the situation and wants to avoid the conversation.
- He can’t really figure out what he’s doing and is often too distracted to focus on communication.
If this starts happening frequently, then it is one more symptom of relationship boredom. Don’t ignore it, try talking about it with him and see if you can come up with a solution. A great relationship should be based on communication and understanding.
16) He no longer opens up like he used to, doesn’t share personal information
When you first started dating, you could tell him anything and he would listen. He opened up to you and shared personal information with you. Now, he doesn’t seem to have time for this type of conversation.
He doesn’t seem as interested in sharing personal details about himself or his life anymore. And when he does open up, it’s not the same as it used to be.
He seems like he’s going through the motions of listening without really sharing the emotion that is supposed to come with those types of confessions.
He’s not getting into the personal details of his life anymore. So why should he share with you and risk making you uncomfortable?
His actions don’t match his words, so it’s important to consider if it’s a real pattern or if this is just a coincidence.
If it is a pattern and the relationship is starting to feel boring, then the answer should be obvious:
It’s time to move on.
17) You can see him pull back from touching you
One of the biggest signs that a man is fed up in a relationship is the refusal to touch you.
You will notice that he pulls back from kissing, hugging, or any other physical contact with you. He just no longer seems to want to be near you or touch you. This can lead to him pulling all together and not wanting physical contact, such as cuddling before bedtime.
This lack of wanting physical contact can be a sign that he is more interested in someone else, or that he has changed his mind about the relationship.
It can also be a sign that this relationship needs to be ended if you have established that there is no sexual intimacy, even though you wish there was.
Once things start to go downhill in the relationship, it’s important to notice those signs early on because they are hard to miss.
18) He stops being affectionate with you in public
When he began dating you, he wanted to show you off and show you off in public. He would touch your arm or your hand when he was talking to you. He would kiss you when he walked by with friends. He did everything he could to show the world that you two were a couple.
But now, he doesn’t really seem to be affectionate with you anymore. He’s stopped showing you off in public and he doesn’t really seem interested in making those small touches anymore.
He seems to be more interested in being a lone wolf than taking you around and introducing you to his friends. And if he does, then it’s more out of obligation than genuine interest.
Relationships are supposed to be exciting and fun. You’re supposed to want to show each other off and make those types of touching gestures. But if the spark seems to have died, then it’s probably time for him to move on.
Hopefully, you can see now that there are many signs that a man is fed up in a relationship. If you see any of these signs, it’s time to rethink this relationship and ask yourself if it has any future.
Asking yourself these questions will help you decide whether or not he’s interested in this type of relationship in the long run.
If not, then move on and find the best treatment for your needs. If he does have more fun in this type of relationship, then you will have to figure out a way to keep him interested in you.