Do you ever feel like you’re attracted to girls who don’t like you?
The thing is, we all want a girl who won’t give someone like us the time of day.
It’s just human nature that when something seems out of our reach we want it even more than anything else in the world.
Well… Here are 10 reasons you’re attracted to girls who don’t like you and what to do about it.
1) You like the thrill of the chase
The idea of chasing a girl who doesn’t like you gives you an adrenaline rush. You’re not quite sure why, but there’s something about it that makes you feel alive.
Attraction often develops when there is an imbalance of power in a relationship. When one person is obsessed with the other and constantly chasing that person, it is an imbalance of power.
Often, there will be an imbalance of power when one person wants the other person more than that person wants them back.
That’s why the “chase” is so exciting and so many people like to play games like this.
For a lot of guys, the excitement comes from getting something and knowing it was hard work to get it.
It’s rewarding and makes you feel good about yourself.
And this kind of feeling is in direct opposition to settling for a girl that obviously likes you just fine. When she does, it feels almost like cheating. You don’t like the thought of that at all.
2) You like girls who don’t like you because you can win them
Another reason is you like the idea of being able to win a girl who doesn’t want you.
Let’s face it.
It feels good to “conquer” something difficult, and most people want this feeling in as many parts of their lives as possible.
The feeling of winning a girl who doesn’t like you is a rush because it shows that there are other things in life that can be challenging and exciting too.
That’s another reason why most people love games the way they do – it keeps things interesting and alive.
There’s nothing boring about having to work hard for something.
And there’s nothing boring about someone who doesn’t want you, because then you know that you have a shot in winning them over.
3) She represents what you want in a woman
Most likely, you’re attracted to her for the same reasons you’re attracted to women you like.
If she has qualities that you admire, you want to win those qualities for yourself.
For example, if she is smart and funny, then you want her confidence and wit in a woman that likes you.
There’s something about them that you find interesting and attractive, even if the idea of approaching them scares you.
Maybe she’s always surrounded by guys or is the kind of girl who never gives guys ‘The Look’.
What can you do about it?
The best thing you can do is to pull away a bit yourself.
Seriously, I’ve been there before and it’s really intimidating that the one that you like actually doesn’t like you. Every time I approached her, she would give me a pretty clear “look.” It was an immense relief when I finally realized that she didn’t want me.
This is what I learned: If you keep chasing her, the chance that you win her heart is very small.
This is where “nice guys” get it so wrong. Women have no “fear of loss” with a nice guy… and that makes them pretty unattractive.
That’s why keeping a little distance with her for some days would help you in this situation.
It’ll make her feel insecure and it’ll make her invest in the chase.
This video will explain more clearly about what I’ve learned – check out this excellent free video.
What you’ll learn in this video isn’t exactly pretty — but neither is love.
4) Being rejected by her makes you want her more
Being rejected by a girl who doesn’t like you will make you want her way more than if she liked you.
I know how painful it is to be rejected, so I can definitely relate to what this feels like. When it happens, your heart and mind just want to win her back.
And then when it comes back out of pity or fear, your heart wants you to win her back all over again.
You’re living with the fact that she doesn’t like you, and this fact makes you want her more.
When you finally get what you’ve been chasing, it feels so good. The joy of victory is addictive.
Think about how excited she must feel.
If only she could give you a taste of that feeling. It would make your conquest look even sweeter in your eyes, and would make everything work out even better.
5) Indifference is appealing to some
The girl who doesn’t like you doesn’t give you the vibe of being able to trust her. With someone who is interested in you, you can at least feel like you know they’re going to be there.
But if she’s completely indifferent, there’s no way to know what’s going to happen next.
This is a very basic issue of supply and demand. If a girl doesn’t like you, then you’re probably going to want her more than if she likes you.
But don’t worry; it’s okay to have this feeling.
Guys who feel they can get any girl they want are less likely to be attracted to girls that don’t give them the time of day.
But guys who aren’t that confident in their game will think “this girl doesn’t like me, so this must mean I’ve got something really special about me that she’s just not seeing.”
6) To prove to her that there is something special about you
You have a feeling that if you can just hang in there, then she will recognize the specialness of you two.
She will feel like she wants to be with you, and not anyone else. She’ll see how great of a guy you are and how well you fit together.
There’s a lot of pressure on her to change her mind about you because it’s really hard for guys to believe that a girl doesn’t want them back.
When a girl has confirmed she is not interested in being with you,it can be devastating for your self-esteem.
If a girl has told you she doesn’t like you or wants to be just friends, then that’s about as clear as it can get. It will be easier for her to recognize how great of a guy you are if you don’t press the issue.
Instead, focus on yourself and your life, and try to build up your confidence that way.
She’ll want to be with you because she’s seen what an amazing guy you are.
7) You believe that being mean to you is a sign that she likes you
In fact, a lot of girls will deliberately be mean to someone they like because it’s too hard to keep their feelings hidden.
And because you know that, you believe that being mean to you is a sign that she likes you.
Sometimes, she’s being mean to you because of the way you act around her.
Maybe you’re nervous or scared, and that shows through your body language.
Or maybe all your friends know how much you like her and they tell her all the time, so she starts teasing you back.
You interpret it as her being “tough”. You think that this girl is strong-willed and doesn’t fall for anyone. You think she’s one of those rare girls who can keep her distance from everyone and still be respected by everyone.
And there’s something about that that makes you want her even more.
8) You’re hoping to change her mind by continuously pursuing her
If you’ve been pursuing a girl who doesn’t want to be with you, and she’s been rejecting you, you may be hoping that by continuously pursuing her, she’ll change her mind and be more interested in being with you.
You may think that if you keep going after her and being friendly toward her, she’ll suddenly like you as more than a friend one day.
She’ll stop rejecting you and start dating you instead.
The problem with this is that you’re putting her under a lot of pressure to change her mind.
She may not be ready to like you yet, or she may not be interested in dating you, even if she does like you.
If she keeps rejecting you, you need to accept that she doesn’t want to be with you, and stop pursuing her.
That would make more sense, right?
9) It feels good to get rejected by someone you like
Yes, it’s true!
Some people like so much to be rejected and then accepted.
It feels good.
When someone rejects you and then accepts you, it is a very powerful experience because they have demonstrated to you that they are capable of judging their own priorities accurately and only giving their love to those who deserve it.
And this creates a beautiful sense of self-esteem for the person who received this kind of affection, who knows that he or she is wanted by someone with great taste in partners.
When you’re rejected and then accepted, it’s a powerful experience because you know that your love is desired by some other person.
10) You think pursuing is the only way to prove your worth as a man
Another reason is you think chasing would prove your worth as a man.
You’re scared that she doesn’t like you because she doesn’t think you’re worth it.
Most of the time women don’t even have the slightest idea of how much men are actually worth, and when they do know it’s only a few percent, so why should anyone be impressed by anything other than an obvious display of effort?
Only real men should be pursuing women.
And those who are not, are in fact “real” men who are hurting themselves and their relationships by not pursuing girls who don’t like them.
What to do to attract them?
Attraction is an important part of the game, and it’s not just about being witty and charming.
Often it’s about having the ability to read a girl’s signals and the way she behaves around you.
I have some tips for you about how to attract them and make them like you.
Let’s start digging, shall we?
1) Be cool and confident
You have to keep in mind that the way you approach women sends a very strong signal about who you are as a person.
It’s better to show her that you’re also cool with other girls, or she might start to doubt your ability to be comfortable around other girls besides her.
If you’re worried about being rejected, then you won’t be cool around a girl.
Worrying will make it impossible for you to have fun and spontaneous interaction with her.
So the greatest way to attract a girl is to be yourself, confident and comfortable.
2) Be yourself, don’t lie
Who you are is the most important thing in this game.
If you want to show someone that you’re worth their time and affection, then you have to be yourself.
Don’t lie about who you are.
Be honest about your personality and interests. This will also help you because if she likes you for who you are, it’s a sign that she likes the real YOU.
3) Work out, eat healthy and dress nicely
You need to look good if you want to attract a girl.
It’s one of the best ways to make sure that she’s going to be attracted to you.
Women are all about appearances because they care so much about their looks. If she knows that you’re not focusing on your appearance, then it’s a sign that you don’t care about yourself, and that makes her feel bad.
4) Be a great conversationalist
Let’s face it: Initial conversations with women can be tough. However, you can turn a potentially awkward moment into a moment of connection simply by finding common ground with them.
There are some really helpful tips on how to become a good conversationalist in this free online video of Kate Spring. She’s a best-selling author and is considered to be one of the best dating coaches in the world.
I learned those techniques from her. And they really helped me in my past experiences.
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5) Have a great sense of humor and make her laugh
The best way to show her that she can trust in your ability to be fun and spontaneous together is to have confidence in yourself, and have a great sense of humor.
You need to make sure that the laughs you have together are spontaneous and funny because she wants to know for sure if you’re a fun person who enjoys being around a girl.
A big part of this step is having a great sense of humor and making her laugh.
That way she’ll know that you’re going to be a fun person who she can enjoy being around.
If you can make her laugh, then you have the edge because she’ll enjoy spending time with you and will want to see you again.
This step is very important, especially for creating attraction.
6) Show her that you are attracted and like her physically
Many men use the wrong body language when they’re attracted to a girl physically.
When they want to show their sexual attraction to a girl, they usually stare at her breasts or butt too much.
This is a big mistake because she’s not stupid.
She’ll notice that you’re staring at her parts, and it will make her feel uncomfortable.
A big part of this step is smiling at her with your eyes and making eye contact while talking to her.
And instead of staring at her private part, you can look at her lips while she’s talking or smiling. That is a better way to let her know that you are attracted to her physically.
7) Listen more than talk
This is very important for girls to see that you care about their opinion.
If you always let her talk, even on topics that are not related to what she’s talking about, you’ll show her that you care to understand more about her.
The best way to do this is by making eye contact and nodding your head while she’s talking.
It shows that you’re listening and that you care.
This is the easiest way to establish trust and make it stronger with a woman.
8) Be in great shape physically and mentally
Yes, it’s important to have a great body too. It’s one of the vital things that women find attractive and sexy.
It shows that you live a healthy lifestyle and exercise regularly.
But you also need to walk with your head up high, don’t make eye contact with people when you’re passing by, and don’t be afraid of making a lot of mistakes because they will teach you more than anything.
If a woman is attracted to you, she’ll be comfortable with the idea that she can trust in your judgment and knowledge because it shows that you are confident in yourself.
9) Be generous and kind to people
Being an authentic, generous and kind person is a very strong signal that a girl needs to feel before she can trust you. It’s the most important thing in this game because women love to be around good people.
You have to make sure you’re always being generous by remembering the little things she needs or wants.
Maybe she needs coffee, but you just forgot to get her coffee from Starbucks that morning.
Maybe she’s hungry, but you forgot to bring her lunch with you because it was too hot outside and you were driven by your boss.
Those small things happen but it will add up and make her think that you are not that guy.
Don’t be afraid to apologize for making mistakes, or for making her feel bad about herself.
Trust me, she’ll like you a lot more if you’re sensitive and caring. This is the only way she’s going to see that you are a good person and trust that you’re not going to hurt her.
10) Make her want to be with you
At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter how famous or good-looking you are.
Women will choose what they want in their own time and there is nothing that can happen to force them to make that choice.
The only way you can be successful is by making sure that she wants to be with you, and not by pressuring her or scaring her.
You need to do your best and try not to worry so much about getting rejected.
Worrying makes you stiff around women because it’s a negative emotion, which most women recognize from the first moment they see you greeting them.
It’s very important to show her that you are a fun, amusing, and good man who makes her feel wanted.
Remember that if you want to attract women, the only way to do that is by showing her that she can trust you and be comfortable around you.
You need to invest in her and make sure that you show her how much fun it would be for the two of you to go somewhere together, or just hang there for a while.
Pay attention to what she says and does, work on making yourself capable of being a good man, then go out there and talk to women with confidence.
Use some of the techniques from this article and see how much easier it gets.
I hope you’ve enjoyed this article and have learned a few things to help you attract the girl who doesn’t like you.
If you want any expert help, I mentioned earlier what revolutionized my dating game – relationship expert Kate Spring.
Watch the video here. It’s 100% free and there are no strings attached.