How to manifest your soulmate when you’re already married

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| Last Updated: August 10, 2022

You may be married, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still look for a soulmate. 

If you’re already wed, you have an advantage over singles in looking for your other half. You also have a responsibility that singles don’t. 

If you’re ready to take on this challenge, here’s everything you need to know about how to manifest your soulmate when you’re already married.

1) Create a vision board for your soulmate

Though the goal is to find your soulmate after you’re married, it’s important that you visualize your soulmate before then. 

You can use a vision board for this. 

Before you marry, it’s also useful to have a “vision” of what kind of person will be your husband or wife. In other words, see yourself with the person as if it were already happening.

The best way to do this is to create a vision board and put up pictures of someone who represents the characteristics and traits you want in your partner. Write down how they make you feel in meaningful ways and what they are like. 

The more visual I can be with this plan, the better I do at manifesting my soulmate into reality!

2) Write out what you want to hear and see in your soulmate

Another way to manifest your soulmate is to write out exactly what qualities you’re looking for. 

When you have an idea of the type of person you want to find, it helps to get a little more specific. 

Ways that you can describe your ideal soulmate include physical appearance, personality traits, and personal interests, among others. 

When writing this list, don’t forget to include traits that match your current relationship as well as characteristics that differ from your current relationship. 

This will help you attract a soulmate who is a good match for both the positives and negatives in your life.

Let’s dig a little deeper:

If you don’t have any insecurities about yourself or any particular relationships in your life, then write down everything that seems like an asset to you! This includes character traits like generosity and thoughtfulness and other attractive qualities like loyalty and kindness. 

If your current relationship has issues, or if you feel like you need to change some things about yourself before embarking on a new relationship, write down what traits you want to attract into your life to help with this.

3) Set up some expectations for change

After you’ve got a good sense of the kind of person you want to attract, set up some expectations for how this new person will be different from your current partner. 

Many people who have a history of dating the same negative type over and over are afraid that they will end up finding someone just like the last one.

To combat this fear, ask yourself what you want this new soulmate to bring into your life that’s better than what you already have. 

And think about it – if you are currently married with any number of issues, what do those issues specifically represent?

Are they contributing to feelings of loneliness and isolation? 

If so, then write down how this new relationship will improve your life in these areas or others as well.   

Your soulmate is meant to be an improvement on your current partner, so if you don’t have any major complaints in any area of your life right now, then don’t worry about setting any expectations to change.

4) Surround yourself with positive influences

Here’s the truth: 

No matter what kind of relationship you’re in, you still have a lot of control over whether you attract a new soulmate or not. 

If you’re single, then knowing that you have the power to get out there into the world and meet someone means that, unlike most people who are looking for love, you can actually go search for it.

And if you already have a partner, then think about how you can use your power to improve your relationship as well.

You are responsible for where your thoughts go, so choose carefully what and who you think about. 

The better your thoughts are about yourself and your situation, the better things will be for you and your future relationships.   

Get rid of whatever bad habits will make it seem like these techniques won’t work – like always watching TV shows or movies that are full of drama or other negative influences – because they will create lots of negative expectations subconsciously in your mind.

5) Turn your beliefs around

If you want a new soulmate in your life, then the positive energy that you are putting out there will be attracted other people who feel the same way.

This is why so many people who are looking for love have such trouble finding it – they don’t believe that love is out there for them, and that’s why it’s not attracted to them.  

So if you really want to change your life and find someone better than what you have now, start thinking about yourself like you deserve better. 

If your current partner has been dragging you down for a long time with their negativity or bad habits, start acting as if you believe in yourself enough to get rid of them.   

And remember: 

If you really do find someone new and better than your last relationship (and not just someone different), then it will make all of this worth it in the end!

6) Step out of your comfort zone

Another way that you can raise your vibration and therefore attract a new soulmate is to step into new experiences.   

Remember, if you want to attract a new soulmate, then you’re going to have to admit that your current relationship won’t last forever, and it might be time for something better.

Then you have to start believing in yourself enough to go out and find it.   

All of this usually requires a step outside of your comfort zone, where all the old ways of thinking and doing things have kept you from finding love in the past. 

So if you want to love but don’t know how to get it or don’t believe that there is any, then think about what your life would be like if you could find your perfect someone right now. 

  • How would differently would you feel? 
  • How would things change? 
  • What places would you go?

7) Step into your soulmate’s shoes

OK, this might sound a little weird or complex, but it’s actually pretty simple.   

All you have to do is imagine what your soulmate would be like, and then start to act like them.   

For instance, if you know that your soulmate is kind and caring, then try being kind and caring more often.   

Or if they are an energetic people-person who loves to party a lot and have fun, then go out more with friends or try new activities yourself. 

There are all sorts of other things that you can do, like:

  • Think about how your soulmate would handle a situation in life
  • Read romantic books and love poetry together – even if it’s just with yourself! 
  • Imagine how you would feel in love and act the way that someone who is deeply in love acts – even if it seems crazy! 

8) Visualize your meeting

This is a big one.   

Visualizing your soulmate coming into your life is a huge part of all love magic, and it’s a great way to attract anyone that you want in your life.   

There are many ways to do this, but the best way I’ve found is through meditation.   

This is where you sit quietly and clear your mind of everything else, then bring up an image of what the meeting will be like.   

You can even write out exactly what you want to happen and how it will feel, or say it out loud if you’re alone.  

I’ve done this before by writing out an imaginary email to my future soulmate, telling them how great it would be if we met, and how I hoped that we would get together one day soon.  

Visualize your soulmate as soon as you wake up in the morning and all through the day.   Imagine them being happy with you, making love to you, telling you that they love you completely.   

Hopefully, this will cause you to be more confident and self-assured around people in general, especially ones that might turn out to be your soulmate.

9) Have a mentor

In case you haven’t noticed, there is a lot of stuff in life that we don’t know, and that can leave us feeling a little confused and afraid.   

This is why having someone who can guide us along the way is so important.  

A mentor can be anyone who has been there before you and has already traveled the road you are now facing.   They are often wiser, kinder, and more experienced than we are – which means they have come to know the right way to handle problems on their own.  

A mentor won’t always give you what you want, or turn out to be perfect – but they can show you how to understand yourself better, teach you how to focus your energies in positive ways, and help you find your true path in life, and much more besides.

Surrounding yourself with positive people will make all the difference in your life – choose them wisely!

10) Be aware of the signs

Lots of people get ‘signs’ when they meet their soulmates. 

There is something about the person that fits you like a glove – almost like you were made for them. 

They are the ones for you – nothing will change that, and, even if it does, it doesn’t matter because you’re meant to be together, and so long as you listen to your intuition you will know it.  

Here are some signs that you are on the right path:

  • You feel happy when they are around
  • They make you feel better, instead of worse. 
  • They lift your spirits and put a smile on your face. 
  • You feel more energized around them than others
  • You have had recurring dreams about them, or have been dreaming in general about meeting them
  • You find yourself thinking about them quite often
  • You look at other people, wondering what it would be like to be with them
  • They try to contact you at least once (even if it is fleeting)

Remember that this is a guide, not a rule book so feel free to ignore the above signs if they don’t apply. 

If you are feeling something in your gut or heart that you think is telling you something, then just listen and follow your instincts. You will get there.

11) Keep the momentum going

It is important to stay on track. You can’t stop the process, but you can certainly slow it down.

Stopping may not seem possible for a while, but if you do, you WILL find yourself falling backward.  Take things one day at a time and don’t look back – this is a marathon, not a sprint!

Slow things down and keep an eye on the goal. There will be so many challenges along the way that your journey will seem like it is never going to end (which it won’t!) You have to keep moving forward and staying positive.   

Developing patience and understanding of ourselves as we progress through life will help us refuse to give up when times are difficult – because we know we’ll make it through in the end.

Trust yourself and your abilities (because you are on the right path) and quickly the obstacles will melt away.   

You will see that all those days you spent slogging through the mud were just part of the learning process – it was worth it if it led to you now!

12) Stop focusing on what you don’t have

You may think that this is not a way to manifest your soulmate, but it is essential.   

If you are spending a lot of time thinking about what you do not have, you will attract more of that into your life.  

The more you give thanks for the good in your life and the more you share your blessings with the Universe, the faster these things will manifest for you.

Life is not always about acquiring things.  It’s about making our lives feel like everything we need already exists within us so that we come to feel complete and whole.

13) Be clear on what you want

Don’t be afraid of specific dreams, thoughts, or desires.   

Many people who have not had a clear vision of what they really want out of life do not have the opportunity to receive it.  They are too busy struggling to get by and are constantly distracted by the mundane details of life.

The old adage says that if you don’t ask YOURSELF, who will?  

So start asking yourself what you really want in your life!  

When we know what we want, our subconscious mind receives the message and starts working on making those things happen for us.  

Our world takes on a different vibration and we feel more like ourselves than ever before.   

We attract those things into our lives because we are aligning ourselves with our inner knowing – including everything from career aspirations to relationships, health and so much more!

14) Step back and look at your current relationship

The truth is you’ve already married but you still want to manifest The One.

That means that you are currently not living in the happiest time of your life, which is the time when you have the greatest chance of meeting your soulmate.  

Just because you love someone does not automatically mean that they are going to be your soulmate.   

You may have had a great relationship or two that did not end in marriage, so don’t automatically assume that because you met and fell in love with them, it’s going to happen again with someone new.

Remember: 

Relationships take work!   

They’re hard and tricky at times, but they can also be even more rewarding than we ever imagined – and sometimes they bring us our most significant lessons as well!  

If there’s more pain than joy right now, it’s important to look at where there are blocks preventing you from having a relationship that will last forever.

It is also important to know what you want before sharing this information with others who might be involved in your life. 

15) Decide who you want to be with

Once you’ve stepped back and looked at your current relationship with your spouse or partner, faced your fears, and felt the courage to take action, it’s time to make your ultimate decision.

Because manifesting your soulmate takes long-term intention, you will want to know who you want to be with before you start working.  

The universe doesn’t know who we’re going to end up with until we’ve made our decision!

So think about who it is that really suits you best.

You don’t have to choose your soulmate at this point, but if you can, choose someone that has qualities that are similar to what it is that your soulmate is teaching you about being a fully whole person.

16) Set up a “destination” for your soulmate

The next step is to create a “destination” for your soulmate.

A destination is where you want to be and what you want for your life.  

It really can be anything…from financial abundance to the perfect career, a beautiful home, or just someone who will give you a sense of well-being when they’re around.

This is where you’ll become clear on your vision and mission in life.

You don’t need to make up a whole story or put yourself through any painful process – but when you’re doing this kind of work (you are manifesting what you want and creating your destiny) it’s important that you feel completely free and at peace with whatever unfolds.  

Whatever your vision or mission is, it should be in alignment with the bliss or abundant reality that flows from it – so whatever comes into your life should feel great!

17) Bask in the energy of love and abundance already in your life

Once you have your destination in mind, it’s time to stop perceiving things as ‘good’ or ‘bad’.  Everything that arises out of this place of complete peace is a great thing.  

Now, it’s important to not fall into complacency and start believing that you have already manifested what you want.  

It’s absolutely true that the universe can bring more of what we want into our lives if we are aware enough of how powerful and loving the universe is – but we must be clear on how much WE create the reality.

So give yourself permission to feel grateful for all the things that are coming into your life…then go about your business as usual. 

If you’re feeling stressed, frustrated, or deprived just think about what it is that you want from your life…are there other people around who love and support you?  

Are they able to help you manifest it? If so, stop stressing – instead focus on manifesting your desires from a place of love and knowing you can manifest anything.

Final thoughts

We’ve covered 17 ways to manifest your soulmate when you’ve already married. 

We’ve also given you a step-by-step guide that explains how to bring your soulmate into your life, how to feel like you already have your soulmate in your life, and even how to shift past the thoughts that are sabotaging your efforts.  

Just keep in mind that this is a process that takes time. 

When you have your ultimate goal and desire in mind, can you see the seeds of what will manifest? 

This is your soulmate manifesting itself – so as you keep putting in more effort, in time it will emerge into reality!