Are you feeling unfulfilled? Are you craving more attention? Has the sex gone stale?
These are just a few signs that your relationship is going downhill.
Come take a look at our list of 12 signs that you’re losing interest in your relationship, and see if they sound familiar.
1) You no longer want to cuddle, kiss, or engage your partner in sex
Have you ever noticed that when your relationship is falling apart, you no longer want to cuddle, kiss, or engage your partner in sex?
If so, it’s because you’re starting to lose interest in your partner.
You start to become detached and feel a strong need for independence. Not wanting to be intimate or to even hold your partner’s hand is often an early sign of losing interest in the relationship.
Trust me, it’s not always easy to recognize this at first, especially if you’re attached to your partner and have been with them for a long time.
But even still, if you’ve noticed that you want to withdraw affection from your partner, take this as a sure sign that your relationship may be in trouble.
2) You feel empty inside when spending time with them
You’re lying in bed with your partner, and instead of feeling satisfied, you start to feel empty inside.
It’s like you have nothing in common anymore and there’s no longer any passion or spark. You start to question whether or not the relationship is worth it.
Or maybe you’re just sitting watching TV with your partner, and instead of feeling excited about spending time together, you feel bored and begin wishing you were doing something else—anything else—but watching TV.
If you can relate to either of these scenarios, that’s a strong indication that you’re losing interest in your partner. And the reason why is because you feel empty and unfulfilled when spending time with them.
It’s like there’s nothing for you in the relationship anymore, and instead of feeling respected or appreciated, all you feel is bored or even resentful.
3) Your patience has worn thin
Relationships don’t always go smoothly. Sometimes there are ups and downs and disagreements.
But what happens when a lot of the time, you feel frustrated or even angry with your partner? Instead of getting on each other’s nerves occasionally, you find yourself feeling this way a lot.
When this kind of thing happens, you start to lose interest in your partner and wonder if the relationship is really worth it anymore.
For example, your partner may do something that you don’t like, and instead of quietly showing them how you feel, it turns into an argument that lasts for hours. This can quickly drive a wedge between you and your partner.
Needless to say, if a lot of time passes by and there’s still no change in the situation, that’s a strong indication for your relationship is not working out anymore.
4) You start to feel resentful when your partner does something nice for you
When somebody does something nice for you, most of the time it makes you feel appreciated or even loved. But what happens when your partner does something nice for you and it doesn’t make you feel this way anymore?
If this is the case, then you may be experiencing a loss of attraction for your partner.
For example, perhaps your partner shows up on the doorstep with flowers and a box of chocolates because they know you’ve had a really rough day. But instead of feeling happy that they did this, you feel annoyed and begin resenting them.
Or perhaps your partner pulls out all the stops with something romantic and special, like candlelight dinner or another kind of date night. But instead of feeling excited, you’re just bored and hurriedly rush through dinner.
5) You start to wonder if there’s someone better out there
According to an intriguing study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, when you start losing interest in your current partner, you may unconsciously begin scanning the environment for other potential partners.
This makes sense because at this point you’re starting to lose confidence in your relationship and are no longer happy with it. So subconsciously, you’re starting to look for other options.
But wait, there’s more!
That doesn’t necessarily mean you want to break up with your partner or are plotting to leave them. It’s just something you subconsciously do when things aren’t working out anymore.
So if you’ve been feeling this way, know that it’s normal. And more importantly, know that you have the power to stop your mind from wandering and stay focused on your relationship instead.
But in order to do that, first, you need to understand the reasons why you started looking in the first place.
And once you’re clear on this, you can start to make better decisions that will allow you to get back on track again.
6) You’re starting to wonder if you two should split up
There’s nothing wrong with trying to figure out if your current relationship is worth it. And that’s why I recommend that you start asking yourself this question:
“Would I be happier if we split up?”
Because the truth is, a lot of people go through this process when they start losing interest in their partner.
Ultimately, the answer to this question will help you determine if it’s time for your relationship to end. Or if you’re better with sticking it out.
But before making any big decisions, we first have to understand why this is happening in the first place. And once you do that, you can finally start making real progress towards improving your relationship instead of just wasting time and wondering if there’s somebody better out there.
7) You no longer feel like you have much at all in common with them
Another sign that you’re losing interest in your partner is when you no longer feel like you have much at all in common with them.
This can be filled with many different emotions.
When this happens, you may start feeling lonely and isolated. Or you might even feel like a fake person that’s trying to be with your partner but doesn’t really have anything in common with them anymore.
I’ve been there:
I forced myself to spend time with my partner when I felt like I was losing interest. But instead of feeling anything, all I did was get bored and frustrated.
It got to the point where I realized there was no point in spending any more time together because it wasn’t going anywhere anyway.
So if you feel like this at all, know that it’s completely normal and not just happening to you.
8) You no longer feel the need to impress or please your partner
When you two first started dating, you probably spent a lot of time trying to impress and please your partner.
But somewhere along the way, that changed. Maybe you started doing this less and less because deep down, you felt like there was no point in trying anymore. Or perhaps because your confidence took a significant hit from your partner’s criticism or negativity.
In any case, when this happens, it’s very clear that something significant is going on.
Find someone you trust and tell them about what you’re going through. They can help make things feel more real again, and even help you figure out what to do next.
9) You’ve started prioritizing other people and things (friends, hobbies, etc.) over your partner
Before you know it, your relationship and priorities start to shift.
You get a new job or find a new hobby that allows you to spend more time with your friends. And as part of this change, you’re also no longer spending a lot of time with your partner.
But if you’ve been feeling this way, there’s a reason for worry because it could be a sign that something’s off in your relationship.
And that’s why you need to take action and figure out why this is happening, especially if you’ve been physically spending less time with each other.
The sooner you do this, the better because it will prevent your relationship from getting any worse.
10) You often feel like everything is their fault, no matter the situation
Here’s the truth:
Sometimes people change and we don’t like it. We expect them to be the same as when we first met them.
But the reality is, that relationships are dynamic and people change over time, even if you don’t want them to.
There may be nothing wrong with your partner – or it could be that one of you has changed so much that important parts of your relationship have vanished.
But more than this, you’re also starting to believe that it’s their fault no matter what the situation is. And this can lead to a lot of frustration, stress, and negativity.
What you need is a plan that will help you reconnect with your partner and rekindle your passion for your relationship again. Don’t be afraid to take some time for you two to focus on what’s important and what brings the two of you closer.
Because the truth is, your relationship is never something that happens overnight. It takes time, effort, and passion.
11) You’ve stopped trying to find new and exciting things to try together
The reason why you even started dating your partner in the first place is that you found them interesting, witty, and exciting.
And then over time, you two started trying new and exciting things together. Maybe it was a new restaurant or a trip to another country. But that’s normal – it’s one of the many ways that a relationship develops over time.
But when it starts to feel like there’s no more excitement left with your partner, that’s when things start going downhill.
It could be because you’ve already tried everything and nothing is changing. Or it could be that your partner is no longer interested in trying new things together.
I know time goes by fast, and you might not even notice when something big happened. But if you can’t help but feel like this right now, I strongly suggest that you spend some time looking back on your relationship and finding out where things went wrong.
12) You’ve stopped feeling good about yourself and your relationship
All that time you spent fighting with your partner or constantly criticizing them just to feel better eventually had an effect on your mood.
But even though you still know it’s not right, your ego may have taken a hit. You don’t feel like you deserve to be treated kindly, and all of a sudden, you don’t see why your partner should also care about what you think anymore.
And just like that, the spark is gone. All that’s left is negativity and resentment building on top of one another while you look back at what once was.
That’s also one of the many signs things you start losing interest in your relationship.
And so, if you’re feeling this way right now, there’s a lot you can do to turn things around.
First and foremost, get to know your partner again. And stick around as much as they’ll allow you until that happens. This type of change doesn’t happen overnight – it takes time and patience.
Second, you need to spend more time together. If you want things to feel better and more like the way they used to be, you need to show your partner that you truly care about them and what they have to say again.
And while this may sound like a tall order, it’s definitely worth a shot because it may be all that stands between your relationship staying together and ending up like so many others have in the past.
Hopefully, you now have a clearer idea of the signs you start losing interest in your relationship.
But with that said, I also want you to keep something in mind.
Sometimes, we lose interest in our relationship and we don’t even realize it. So honestly, sometimes all you need to do is look back at what happened and find out where things went wrong.
And once that happens, take some time for yourself and your partner. Show them how much they mean to you until that spark comes back around again.
Also, don’t be afraid of taking a tiny step away from each other and seeing what happens. It’s not a sign you’re doomed to fail – but it’s something that will help put your relationship back together again.