Have you ever been at a bar and spotted someone who must be checking you out?
You can’t tell for sure, or you see a woman with her friends staring over at your table, and they seem to be enjoying the view.
Lucky for you, we’ve got this list of 24 ways to tell that she’s definitely checking you out.
1) She keeps eye contact
Have you wondered why established salespeople always say that the best thing you can do is make eye contact with a potential customer?
Well, it turns out that making eye contact is one of the oldest natural ways to let someone know you’re interested.
But, remember that eye contact goes both ways.
Make sure to acknowledge her as well and hold your gaze a little while longer than normal.
She’ll get the point. If she’s into what she sees, she’ll smile or look away first.
2) She leans forward as she talks to you
Think about this for a moment:
Would you assume a woman at a bar was flirting with you if she leaned way back into her chair?
Of course not.
So when a woman leans forward as she talks to you, that means one thing: she’s interested in what you have to say.
So go ahead and engage her in conversation. Listen closely to what she’s saying and take note of her body language while doing so.
She’ll be giving away more signs that she’s checking you out without even realizing it!
3) Her voice drops an octave or two
According to the book, “The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed”,
The way we speak to the people we find attractive is different than the way we speak to those we find unattractive.
It’s a strange phenomenon called tonality. And women will drop their voices when talking to someone they’re interested in.
This applies to both men and women.
But since most of us guys tend to have deeper voices than our female counterparts, it’s a little easier to notice when we do this.
4) She is touching your arm while talking to you
Another way to tell that a woman is checking you out is by the way she touches you.
She may lightly touch your arm when she talks about something that interests you, or she may brush up against you as if she wants to reach out and grab her phone.
It all means the same thing.
She’s interested in what you have to say and is giving off a vibe that says, “I’m interested.”
Also, keep in mind that she may be touching you unconsciously.
Just because she touches you as she talks to you doesn’t necessarily mean she’s flirting or checking you out.
It’s just a subconscious way of showing her interest in what you have to say.
5) She talks to her friends and they look in your direction briefly
The next way to tell that a woman is checking you out is when her friends are talking to her and they look in your direction briefly.
Most likely, they’re talking about you.
They’re probably saying things like, “Oh, yeah? So what’s he like?” or “Yeah, I can’t believe she’s into him.”
In this case, the women are all sharing information about you and the group’s interests have been expanded by it.
This means that they’ve all had a chance to check you out while they’re talking.
The group dynamic is strengthened, and both you and the girl have gotten some positive peer feedback.
6) The conversation gets a bit more playful
Have you noticed that when a woman checks you out and you talk to her, the conversation goes from being very serious to a bit more playful?
Maybe she mentions something in the news and then says to you, “Hey, do you think we should have kids?”
Or maybe she takes a joke that you make and then follows up with a comment about how good of a father you’d be.
At that moment, she’s trying to put some light-hearted fun into the conversation.
This is one of many ways women try to show interest when talking with men.
7) She blushes and giggles while speaking to you
Women don’t usually blurt out their true feelings.
Instead, they try to show interest without giving themselves away.
Sometimes a simple comment or question can reveal her interest in you, but most of the time we have to use a variety of cues.
This is one such cue.
When a woman is interested in you, she’ll blush and giggle.
It’s a way of showing that she feels some kind of attraction to you or letting you know that there’s more than a businesslike vibe to the conversation.
And that may just be because she’s checking you out.
8) Her pupils are dilated
A woman’s pupils have a direct impact on her hormones and can indicate extreme tendencies.
That’s why it’s always important to pay attention to her pupils.
If her pupils are dilated, she’s interested in what you’ve got to say.
If they’re constricted, she’s not interested in anything you have to say and is just being friendly or polite.
So the next time you talk with a woman and notice that her pupils are dilated, try not to take it personally.
This isn’t always 100% accurate. For example, if she’s had too much to drink, her pupils may be constricted. So take this cue with a grain of salt.
9) She uses your nickname when talking about you in person
This next one is your classic “follow the leader” maneuver.
A woman will use your nickname when talking about you in person, even if you’ve never mentioned it before.
It’s as if she’s giving you a signal that says, “Hey baby! I’m checking you out.”
So make friends with a lot of women and watch them do this as well.
When they call you by your nickname, you’ll know that they’re interested in you.
10) She goes out of her way to talk to you
When you talk to a woman, it’s likely that she’ll say something to get your attention.
Maybe she’ll say something like, “Hey, do you know where I can buy some cigarettes?” or “Mind if I cut in line?”
But when a woman is checking you out and wants to show interest in you, she’s going to go out of her way and make her interest known.
She may dance with you at the club or take your jacket and hang it up for you at the mall.
Now it’s your turn:
Let her know that you’re interested, too. Let her know that you noticed that she’s checking you out. If she likes what she sees, too, then open up a conversation and start getting to know her.
11) She crosses her leg so that it’s touching yours
Trust me, this one’s a dead giveaway, but if you don’t know it, you probably shouldn’t be out on the prowl, either.
Whenever a woman is checking you out and wants to show interest in you in an indirect way, she’ll cross her leg so it’s touching yours.
This is because it heightens your awareness of her attraction.
It doesn’t mean she’s trying to seduce you or that she wants to take advantage of you.
It means that she wants to enhance the chemistry between the two of you, and it’s your turn to see the attraction.
12) She starts to take an interest in the things you’re interested in
If you’re looking at a painting in a museum or having a discussion about art, she may get involved in the conversation.
She may start to ask you questions about what it means to you and ask for your input on the subject matter.
Then she may start to get involved in it.
She may ask about the artist or express interest in some of the other points being made.
If she’s really interested, she’ll absorb all of the information and may want to know more.
This can happen when someone is truly interested in you, and this is one way to tell that a woman is checking you out.
13) You get an immediate response on social media when you post something
Social media allows you to connect with people from all over the world.
You can post on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter and get immediate feedback from people.
If a woman is checking you out, she’ll be quick to chime in.
She may comment on your picture or recommendation, or she may just leave a little love note in your comments section.
So the next time you post anything on Facebook, take a look at your interactions.
Are there any women commenting on your interactions, or do they just seem like random acquaintances?
14) She’s eager to talk to you outside of work
Let’s assume that you work with a woman who is checking you out.
Maybe she thinks you’re cute and is trying to bring some fun into the workplace.
Or maybe she likes to flirt and have a good time when she’s working.
In any case, whenever you see her outside the office, she’s eager to talk to you.
She may ask you how your day was or even follow it up with a joke or pun. You’ll be surprised it’s not always a simple compliment or even a joke.
The next time you see her, try to keep the conversation going and see how she reacts.
15) She compliments your outfit or hairstyle without prompting from you
Have you ever found yourself dressed up for a big event and then complimented by a woman?
This usually happens when a woman is checking you out, but it can also happen as an innocent compliment.
She may say, “Wow, are you wearing that outfit tonight?”
Or she may ask you outright about what you’re wearing and then compliment your style.
Whatever the case, it’s good to know that she’s checking you out, and the next time she compliments your outfit or hairstyle, don’t take it as a shy way to get to know you.
This is actually an indication that she likes what you have to offer.
16) She offers to buy you drinks or another round
Don’t be surprised to see a woman who isn’t your friend offer to buy you a drink or another round.
It’s likely that she’s checking you out, so she may even say something like, “How’s it going?”
She may even tell you that it was so nice to meet you. If the woman is your friend, this is the polite way to compliment her and ask if she wants another drink.
Personally, I think this is a good thing.
It shows that the woman is trying to show interest and is more than willing to take the next step.
17) She mimics your body language and movements
Body language is a very powerful thing, and it’s a great way to tell if a woman is checking you out.
When she mimics your body language, it shows that she wants to get closer to you and enjoy your presence.
She might try to mirror the way you hold yourself or how you stand up against somebody else.
Maybe she’s leaning against the bar in the same way you are, or maybe she’s making an effort to be as close to you as possible at a party.
As long as her movements are subtle and graceful, it means that she thinks you’re attractive and wants to enjoy your company.
18) She checks out your profile to see who you follow or what you like on social media
Here’s a scenario:
You notice that she’s looking at your Twitter profile.
She doesn’t say anything to you about it; she just continues to look at the screen.
You may even see her speed up her own browsing so that she can see the rest of your profile. This is a pretty big indicator that a woman wants to know more about you.
You may even notice her checking out other things on your profile, like the things you like or retweet.
But don’t take this as an indication that she’s ready to break the ice.
You’ve got to find a way to engage with her and get her involved in a conversation.
19) She acts jealous of your other social connections
Maybe she’s jealous of the relationships you have on social media.
Maybe she doesn’t want to invest in her own relationships because she’s jealous of your presence.
She may even tell you that you seem to have a lot of fun with all of these friends, and sometimes people just want to see what it feels like.
I’m not saying that she’s using you to feel good about herself or even degrade your relationship, but this is a harmless way for her to check out other people without being obvious about it.
If the woman is checking out your Facebook profile, it means she wants more information about you in order to make a decision about whether or not she should talk with you.
So if you notice that she’s checking out your other social connections, don’t take it as a bad sign.
It may mean that she’s trying to figure out if you’re worth her time or not.
20) She asks about your past relationships in more detail than others would
There are a lot of women who don’t really care if you have past relationships.
They may even be happy that you’re single because they want to take things slow and get to know you better.
But there are other women who think about your past relationships a lot more than most people would.
She might be asking about your exes’ names, where you’re from, what you did together, how long it lasted, and so on.
She may even ask about the women who came before her.
So what does all this mean?
It means that she’s checking you out and hoping to know more than just your name.
Maybe she’s trying to figure out your relationship history, but it’s more likely that you’re a potential partner for her.
21) She ignores your friend and focuses on you
If you’re at a party or any kind of social gathering and a woman ignores your friend’s conversation and starts talking to you, it may mean that she checks you out and wants to know more about you.
Here’s an example:
You’re standing at a crowded bar and you notice that a woman is checking you out.
She stares at you, but ignores your friend and tries to get closer to you.
Maybe she’s making an effort to look casual and approachable, or maybe she wants to make the first move because she wants to feel more confident and grown-up.
Either way, you’ve got to make sure she notices that you’re getting attention.
You can do this by giving her your attention as well.
Let her know that she’s being appreciated and don’t take anything for granted.
22) Her interest in you takes weeks to show
A lot of women check you out and make an effort to get close to you.
And sometimes, it can take them weeks or even months before they start showing their interest.
Maybe she’s shy and she needs time to get to know you.
Maybe she’s afraid of seeming too attached. Maybe she’s not sure if you’re a potential partner.
Whatever the reason, her interest will eventually show itself.
But don’t expect her to jump right into sharing her heart with you.
Her heart may belong to somebody else, or she might be taking things slow in order to get close to you carefully.
So just focus on doing the same, and there’s a good chance you’ll fall in love at some point.
23) She keeps looking for an excuse to bump into you
Here’s an interesting thing:
Sometimes women will try to make a scene if they don’t succeed in getting your attention.
So in case you’re at a party and a woman keeps trying to bump into you, it might mean that she’s checking you out and she wants to get close to you.
However, it’s also possible that she wants attention so badly because she’s desperate for affection.
She probably has nobody else around her who shows any interest in her.
24) She presents herself as a potential partner
OK, I know what you’re thinking:
Women don’t have to check you out in order to be interested in you as a potential partner.
They could also just talk to you because they’re interested in getting to know you better.
They could also ask questions to see if they think they can spend more time with you.
Maybe they’re not even checking you out; maybe they’re just being friendly and polite.
These are all great things, and they mean that she’s interested in getting to know you better.
But in some cases, she goes the extra mile and presents herself as a potential partner. That means that she’s looking for more than just friendship and already has an intention to pursue you.
When a woman checks you out, it means she’s interested in getting to know you better.
Sometimes, she may even be interested in a relationship with you.
But just because she checks you out and shows interest it doesn’t mean that she is ready to make the first move.
She may just want to get closer and talk to you without having any intention of making a deep connection with you.
So always pay attention to subtle cues, and don’t make any assumptions.
And if you notice that a woman has checked you out, be sure to let her know that she’s appreciated.
Do it carefully and with consideration for her feelings, and there’s a good chance you’ll be successful.