How to make a married man chase you (epic guide)

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I bet you’ve seen at least one of those movies or read one of the books where a guy is married, but he still can’t seem to resist this woman. 

You probably assumed it was just for drama, or that some clause in the marriage agreement gave her an exception. Well, you thought wrong. 

Many women out there know how to make a married man chase after them using a little secret called seduction. Read on and I’ll show you how this works.

Just a word of warning though: if you decide to try this, make sure that you’re absolutely sure about your intentions. 

If you want to be purely friends, then be a friend and nothing more. You don’t want to get tied up with the drama and the heartbreak, so it’s best if you can exercise some self-control over yourself. That being said, here are some ways how you can make a married man chase after you.

1) Show your vulnerability

All men love it when a woman is vulnerable. 

This isn’t so much in the physical sense, but more in the emotional sense. What they love is when they feel like they can be themselves with you and still get your affection because you’re not putting up any defenses. 

You could do this by letting out your innermost secrets with him or showing him how much you care about him by telling him that he’s the only one who can make you happy and that he’s your one true love. 

But remember that don’t show too much of your vulnerability too soon. 

There is a fine balance between the two and once you show too much to a man, they may feel that they can take advantage of you. If that’s what you really want, then I advise you to show a little more vulnerability to him when the time is right. 

2) Help him see that he’ll be happier with you than his wife

This one is a little tricky. 

It won’t help you much if you go about telling him that he’ll be happier with you

and that something is wrong with his current relationship.

Instead, try and prove to him that he is happier with you than with his wife. 

Make yourself seem like the better option to him by doing things together and spending more time together as a couple.

Here are some guidelines to help you make your case:

  • Spend time with him alone. When you’re out on a date or when the two of you are just hanging out together, show him that it’s more fun for the two of you than it is for him and his wife. 
  • Show that you better understand him than his wife does. If he likes to be left alone some mornings to do his own thing and clear his head, then let him have some space. Don’t pester him and don’t ask a lot of questions. 
  • Don’t compare yourself to his wife. If you keep bringing her up throughout the time that you’re together, then he might get a little annoyed with your prying. 
  • Make him feel like he can be himself with you and that you won’t judge him for it.

3) Be unpredictable

Here’s an interesting fact:

Men love women who are unpredictable. 

The reason for this is that it makes them feel like they don’t know what to expect from you. 

You have to have the ability to surprise them and catch them off guard. You don’t want to be predictable in anything that you do, especially not when it comes to your seduction or your flirting nature. 

When you’re unpredictable, he’ll either be intrigued by you or will get frustrated with you because you’re not giving him an idea of what to expect. Neither of these is good because it will either make him more attracted to you or it’ll drive him away. 

So, you have to be unpredictable in the right way if you want the best results when making a married man chase after you. This means that while you want to surprise him, your surprises should give him something else to think about besides how annoying he thinks you may be.

For example, if you like to dance, then surprise him by learning a new dance that he won’t expect you to know. If you like to read biographies about people, learn about some famous person that he might not have heard about before. These things will make him think more about your spontaneity than they will make him think of how annoying you can be.

4) Be feminine and in control of your emotions

To make a married man chase after you, all you have to do is be different than what he expects you to be. 

You can do this in a variety of ways, but the best way to make him chase after you is when you’re feminine and in control of your emotions. 

This means that instead of trying to impress him with how strong or tough or even sexy you are, try and be an attractive, feminine woman that is easy for him to be around. 

I’ll give you a few other ways that can help give your feminine side the boost that it needs. 

  • Wear dresses instead of pants or jeans. You don’t have to wear these all the time, but when you do wear them, make sure that they’re different from what he’s seen before. 
  • Be unpredictable with your makeup and your hairstyles. 
  • Wear jewelry that makes you feel beautiful. 
  • Spend more time on yourself to keep your feminine side alive and well. 

5) Hold your ground and show that you’re worth the wait

I know he’s married, but if you want to make him chase after you, then you have to show a little bit of strength and independence. 

Don’t allow him to take advantage of you. 

If you let him think that you’re willing to do anything he wants, he’ll know that in the long run, you won’t be worth the time that he puts in and the effort that keeps him trying to have a relationship with you. This will frustrate him and upset him, but eventually, it’ll make him want to get rid of you. 

This is why it’s very important to hold your ground.

Also, try to show that you’re worth the wait. 

You can do this by giving him a little bit of attention, but not just to get a reaction out of him. You have to give yourself away in a mysterious way and leave him wanting more. 

He’ll chase after you if he thinks that he’ll always want you no matter what happens. If he feels like you’re going to be worth the wait, then it’ll make it much easier for him to catch you and make you his forever.

6) Become the kind of woman that he wants

His wife may be the one that he’s married to, but if you can make yourself into the kind of woman that he really wants and hasn’t found in his marriage yet, then it won’t take long for him to fall for you. 

This is what most of those men are doing when they get married; they’re looking for their missing pieces. They’re looking for someone that will complete them and make them feel complete in a way that their wives have never been able to do.

If you want him to chase after you, then you’ll have to start making yourself into the kind of woman that he thinks he’s been looking for. 

You can make yourself seem more desirable than his wife or more able to satisfy him, but you need to do it in a way that will make him fall for you and not just have sex with you. 

Think of all the great women that he has seen and thought about. 

When there’s something missing in his life or when he’s looking for someone to complete him, they’ll always remind him of his wife. 

You want to be different from them and you want to remind him of them while making yourself into a woman that he never wants to be without.

7) Be sexy but not too revealing

This is a very important part of making a married man chase after you

He’ll never want to chase after you if you’re just going to start creeping out his wife or his family members with too revealing clothing or too much of what you’re showing off. 

You can wear sexy clothes, but make sure that the sexiness of them is kept underneath the surface.

But don’t only take my word for it, try and think how sexy you can be without showing too much. 

Do not be selfish with your clothing, but show that you’re comfortable in your skin and that you like what you see but hold back a little bit.

8) Convince him that he needs you for something in particular

Trust me, this will work. 

The more desperate he is for a relationship and to find something in his life that he’s missing, the more this works. 

If you can come up with a reason for him to want you, then he’ll notice your attention and will begin to chase after you. 

For example, if you know that he has a career that he’s very passionate about, then show him that you’re interested in what he does. 

Also, if you have any mutual friends with him or just something that you share a common interest in, let it be known. 

If he has children, understand how valuable they are to him and try and make them part of your plan to make him chase after you. You don’t have to spend all your time around them, but don’t completely avoid them either.

9) Be a bit distant sometimes

OK, I know what you’re thinking: 

“This doesn’t make any sense!” 

But it actually does, especially if you’re trying to convince him to chase after you. 

You see if he’s too close to you and if he knows that you have a lot of interest in him or in getting the relationship started, then there’s a good chance that he’ll shy away from it because he may feel like there’s no challenge anymore. 

Instead, try and be a bit distant from him from time to time. 

Men will chase after women they want and will keep the relationship exciting by making sure that there’s always a challenge between you. 

Pro tip:

The right time for being a bit distant and mysterious is after he’s had you out on a date and things are getting hot and heavy.

10) Text him often, but only during certain times

Have you ever wondered why some women can make a married man chase after them without any difficulty? 

The answer is simple: 

They text him often, but only during certain times. 

Some of them will go months without texting him at all and then when they do, it’s still a shock to see that you’ve texted him because he hasn’t ever been expecting it. This is what keeps the relationship interesting for him. 

If you text him too much or if he’s expecting it because you’ve been texting him frequently, then there’s a good chance that he’ll get tired of it and lose interest. 

Think of it this way: 

You wouldn’t be excited to go out with someone who called you all the time, right? It would be annoying to the point where you would tell that person to stop calling so often. That’s how a married man will feel when he starts getting texts from someone too often.

11) Help him feel like his life has more meaning because of you

This is a very critical part of making a married man chase after you. 

You have to make him feel like his life has more meaning because of you. 

If he feels like his life is missing something and that he’s in need of some type of happiness, then that’s a sign that you can help him find it. 

You’ll have to show him that there’s happiness with you and it’ll be up to you to actually provide that happiness. For instance, if he doesn’t feel like he’s making a difference in the world or if he feels that there’s nothing that he can be really proud of, then you’ll have to show him all the things that he can do, especially in the bedroom.

Want to know the best part?

By doing this, you’ll be able to make him feel like you’re the only one that can stop his unhappiness and give him the meaning that he needs. This will instantly make him want to keep you around for as long as possible.

12) Don’t pressure him or push too hard to commit

A married man tends to scare away when it comes to committing to a relationship with someone. This is because he feels like getting into a relationship with someone else, it’ll end up costing him his family.

He may not even be 100% sure about wanting more than an affair, so you don’t want to pressure him into doing something that he’s not ready for.

Because of this and because he’s married, the relationship will be on his terms and at his pace. I realize that this may frustrate you and that you want him to feel the same way about you as you do about him, but it’s not going to happen until he gets ready for it.

But the good news is that the more time you spend with him, the more he’ll feel like his life does have something in it for him and at the same time he won’t feel scared of losing his family.

If you can keep him in that position of thinking that he has a lot to gain from being with you, then there’s no doubt in my mind that he’ll eventually commit to you.

13) Be understanding of the difficulties in his life 

Think about this for a moment:

A married man may seem like he’s having the life that he wants with a stable family and that all his needs are being fulfilled, but in reality, the truth is quite different. 

First of all, he may not even know what his real needs are because they’re too ingrained in him to feel like they’re there. He may be thinking that everything is fine with his family and wife, but deep down inside, he knows that things aren’t as wonderful as they appear. 

This is why it’s very important that you understand the difficulties in his life. 

If he spends more time with you, then he’ll realize that you’re different and that there’s a reason for him to feel so happy when he’s around you. 

This will encourage him to try and make those feelings last forever by committing to the relationship. It will also motivate him to do what it takes to make things work out with his wife and family before coming clean about his affair.

14) Surprise him with little gestures of affection

OK, this one may seem pretty obvious, but it’s actually very important. 

You see, men care more about the little things than they do about the big things so try and be more thoughtful and give more of those small gestures every time he sees you. It won’t cost you anything, but it will mean a lot to him.

There are a lot of things that you can do to say “I care about you” without having to say it out loud.

Here are a few good examples: 

  • Just asking how his day went will get you a long way. 
  • Texting him to say good night before he goes to sleep and good morning when he wakes up is a good start. 
  • Saying that you miss him when he’s not around means so much more than if you said it when he was there. He’ll see you not as just another woman that’s trying to get something from him, but as someone that truly cares about him.

15) Show him that you are worth the risk

I bet this kind of relationship has never happened to you before, which means that you may not know exactly what to do and this is perfectly normal.

A lot of advice out there will tell you to play it safe, but I don’t think that’s the best way to go about things. 

I think that you should be reckless by showing a married man how much you’re worth.

This is not to say that you should put yourself out there in a way that can cause him to cheat on his wife and leave her. 

You just have to make him feel like it’s so worth it for him to see you and it’s definitely worth the risk for him. 

For example, he may be on the fence about seeing you again because he’s not sure if it’s worth it, but if he sees that you’re putting yourself out there for him and giving him a real reason to take a chance on you, then he’ll definitely see that it’s worth whatever risks are involved in the situation.

16) Help him feel proud of his decision to leave his wife for you

As we’ve discussed before, a married man feels like he may lose his family if he leaves his wife so he’ll have to be very careful about what he does.

He may be putting off the big move because he has a lot of feelings for you, but at the same time, he’s scared that it might not work out and that it’ll cause his family to break up.

If you really want him to leave her, then you have to make him feel like leaving her is a good idea. This is why it’s so important to make him feel proud of his decision to leave his family.

There are a lot of ways you can do this, but one of the best ways is just being yourself around him. Don’t try to be someone you’re not, just be your normal self and not worry about how the situation impacts him.

If you can just be yourself around him, then he’ll feel confident enough to follow his heart. He’ll realize that it’s OK to leave his wife and family behind because of you. This will encourage him and make him feel like he’s the only one that matters in your life.

17) Admire his inner strength

Men have a lot of inner strength and that definitely doesn’t mean that they’re weak and useless.

What I mean by this is that a married man has so much inner strength because he’s facing so many big decisions. 

He feels like he’ll have to give up something amazing to do what he feels is right, but at the same time, it’s scary for him because of how much it means. 

That’s why it’s always so important to admire his inner strength. Sometimes it’s very hard to leave behind the life he has with his wife because of all that inner strength he has but at the same time, he knows that he’ll probably never get it back.

You don’t have to show admiration for every little decision he makes, but you should make him feel like you appreciate him for the decisions that he has made. He’ll definitely appreciate that you care so much about him.

18) Give him attractive qualities that make up for his flaws

As a married man, he’s probably aware of all of his flaws and how they can be a problem for him when he decides to cheat on his wife.

He knows there are things about him that will make it hard for him to leave her and stay faithful, but he also knows that there are so many attractive qualities about him that make up for his flaws. 

So, he’s willing to put up with those flaws because of how attractive you find them, which is why you should give him the perfect qualities to help make up for those flaws. 

What I mean by that is that if he has something about him that makes you feel uncomfortable or things about him that you don’t like, then just focus on the stuff you like and become successful in those areas. 

If you can make up for his flaws with qualities that he enjoys, then he’ll stay faithful to you because he’s not going to want to go back to his wife and family for those same qualities. 

Final thoughts

Hopefully, this article has given you a good idea of how you can make a married man chase you and fall in love with you.

You may feel a bit uncomfortable at first because of how much you’ll have to do, but in the end, it’ll all be worth it. The more you do to make him feel like your number one priority, the more he’ll want you and that’s a great feeling! 

And I have to repeat this: 

Being in a relationship with a married man will affect you a lot more than you think and it’s not something that you should take lightly. So, make sure that you’re ready to handle any situations that come up and don’t give your emotions over to him without realizing the risks involved.