You’ve met a nice guy and things are going well between the two of you. He does his best for you and he makes all the plans with you and you know for sure that he likes you.
He seems to have lost interest
He has less contact with you
He’s not trying anymore
What led to this?
Let’s find out why and how to help you deal with that uncomfortable feeling.
Part 1: He stopped talking to me and I have no idea why
1) He’s just not that into you
The most obvious reason for a guy to suddenly stop talking to you is that he’s just not that into you. There is no point in trying to make him feel more interested, there is just no interest there.
If a guy isn’t calling you, it doesn’t matter if your texts back are funny and witty or if you look great in that dress that he saw you wearing last week.
The easy way to know if he’s into you or not is by noticing his actions. If he doesn’t call or text, then he’s not that into you.
2) He just met you
Another reason a guy might stop talking to you with no explanation is that he just met you, and he’s not sure where he stands. Maybe he’s only just started to get to know you and he’s not sure if you are girlfriend material or not.
If this is the case, don’t take it personally. He might just need more time to get to know you better and figure out if you could be the one for him.
Time can help a guy get over the fact that you two just met, so give him some time, and who knows, things may pick up again.
3) He’s trying to avoid confrontation
If a guy doesn’t like you but doesn’t want to hurt your feelings by saying so, he might just not talk to you. This is a very common, and cowardly action.
The reason he doesn’t talk to you is that he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings, but at the same time he needs to talk about something but cannot bring it up himself.
Sometimes it’s a good idea to help your guy out by reminding him how much you value his friendship and that you don’t think that he should avoid confrontation with you.
4) He doesn’t care about you beyond sex
If a guy meets you and you have sex with him, he might decide to continue seeing you because he thinks you’re really hot. He will continue to see you but he won’t talk to you because he doesn’t care about you as a person.
If a guy is really into you, he will want to get to know you more. If he doesn’t care about you, then don’t waste your time on him.
5) He’s busy
If a guy has a lot on his plate and he’s really busy, he might stop talking to you because he just doesn’t have the time to spend with you. If a guy is busy, he will either ignore your calls or won’t answer them. If you haven’t heard from him in a while, it’s probably because he’s got too much on his plate.
6) He’s second-guessing what he wants to do next
If you’ve been seeing a guy for a while and he suddenly stops talking to you, he might be questioning what he wants to do next. Sometimes it’s a good idea to leave a guy alone for a while. If he doesn’t call you for two weeks, try not to call him or text him. If you are texting him and trying to talk to him, he might get the wrong idea.
If he calls after two weeks, then everything is fine between the two of you and if not, then at least you know that he’s not that into you or just wants someone on the side instead of as his girlfriend.
7) He thinks you’re talking to someone else
Let’s say you’re talking to a guy, but you don’t know that someone else likes you and he’s been watching you. This guy might be trying to figure out why you haven’t been answering his texts, only to discover that another guy is texting you.
If this happens, he might be worried about what you’re saying to the other guy and maybe it would be better for him to just stop talking to you instead of getting into an argument with a third party.
8) He feels bored by your conversations
If you’ve been seeing each other for a while and he suddenly stops talking to you, he might be bored by the conversations you have. If this is the case, you might want to try new things or spice things up a little. You could go for a walk and see what happens.
If things don’t work out, then at least you know that he was just bored with your conversations and not that he stopped talking to you for no reason.
9) He’s talking to another girl
If a guy likes you but he’s already talking to another girl, he might want to continue talking to you because he wants to keep you on the hook. This might not be because he’s interested in you, it could be because he’s playing the field and trying to figure out which girl is better for him.
If this is the case, you should back off slowly. Don’t try to be his girlfriend until after he breaks up with that other girl. This way you know that he’s not just using you for fun.
10) He feels you’re coming on too strong
If a guy loves you and he loves talking to you but suddenly stops talking to you, he might feel that you’re coming on too strong with him. If this is the case, it’s probably because he just wants to keep things casual.
If a guy likes you but doesn’t want to be your boyfriend, he’ll stop talking to you because of that feeling that you’re coming on too strongly.
11) He assumes you don’t like him
If a guy likes you, he might stop talking altogether because he thinks that you don’t like him anymore. Sometimes you might have said something without realizing it and it made him feel like you weren’t too interested in him anymore.
Another reason why he might not want to talk to you is that he thinks that the two of you are going in different directions and that this is the end of your relationship.
12) He has a girlfriend
This is one of the major reasons why guys lose interest in you. If a guy likes you, he will want to kiss you, take your number, ask for your phone number and start a text conversation. If he has a girlfriend, however, he will not want to get too serious with you because he’s going to want to protect his girlfriend’s feelings by being completely respectful and loving.
13) He’s generally flaky
Some guys are just flaky and have a hard time keeping their word. You ask them out, they say they will be there, and they don’t show up. This happens more often than you might think.
If a guy likes you, he will keep his word, but if he doesn’t, he probably won’t show up on time and that could hurt your feelings.
This also happens with guys who are more casually dating around than you are. If you are pressing for him to commit, he may just stop contacting you.
14) He’s going through something stressful
Is it possible that he’s going through a stressful situation in his life? Sometimes a guy will lose interest in you during a stressful time in his life. If this is the case, tell him that you understand and that it’s okay for him to be going through something difficult.
Maybe he needs space and he needs some time to process all of the feelings he’s having right now. Be respectful, but be straightforward with him so that he knows that you are not being pushy or too clingy.
15) Other guys are influencing him
We are products of our relationships, and this rule certainly applies to how a guy’s friends can impact his behavior. If he feels that his friends are influencing him in a certain way and they’re making him lose interest in you, he might not want to talk to you anymore.
He wants to be true to himself and follow his feelings, but unfortunately, all of your efforts will be for nothing if his friends continue to influence him.
16) He does not like the way you gossiping other people
You may have been gossiping about someone in front of him without even knowing it. It could be one of his friends or even your friend. You might have said something negative about someone and he might not be able to get the idea out of his head.
He may want to distance himself from you because he doesn’t want to think about that negative story.
17) You were talking about your ex-boyfriend too much
If you were talking about your ex-boyfriend, he might have felt that this was a turn-off for him. This doesn’t have to be the case, but some guys think that it is a turn-off and those things about your ex can be turned out to be a negative topic. Instead of talking about those old stories, you should spend time discovering each other.
If you tell him that you are over your ex or just don’t mention it, that would probably be better.
18) He feels offended by something you did
There are lots of things that men feel are rude. For example, if you don’t call a guy back within a couple of days, that’s probably a sign that he’s not that important to you. To some guys, that’s very rude. If a guy likes you, he’ll want to see you or talk to you as soon as possible. If he thinks that something is wrong with your behavior, he might just not be interested in talking to you anymore.
19) He just doesn’t like you
The last reason a guy might suddenly stop talking to you is that he just doesn’t like you. This is a sad but true scenario. If a guy who likes you suddenly stops talking to you, he’s probably not going to be able to explain why and he’s not going to be able to tell you what your mistakes were. He just doesn’t like you anymore and there isn’t much that can be done about it.
Part 2: What to do next
1) Consider your feelings
Before you do anything, it’s a good idea to consider how you feel about the situation. As we said earlier, you should never make a guy change his behavior, but if you feel like he’s being rude to you or he’s not being honest with you, try communicating your feelings.
There are different situations that a relationship can go through. Some guys might be confused. If he’s lost interest in you and feels bad about it, he might get back in touch with you to apologize and figure out what the problem was.
2) Take a quick break
If you’ve been talking to him for a while, perhaps you’ve even been on a few dates, and all of a sudden he stops responding to your messages, try taking a break from him. This is an informal breakup of sorts. You aren’t saying anything, you’re just taking a break and figuring out a way to make him miss you.
This is a good technique if you are trying to learn how to get over him faster because it makes the absence of that person more painful than it would have been otherwise.
If you don’t feel like this is working and he doesn’t want to talk to you, seeing someone else could help.
3) Avoid asking around
You may be tempted to ask around to see if anyone knows what happened to him. This could be a huge mistake. One thing that you could do is ask his close friends if they know what happened. They might know the real reason why he stopped talking to you, but they won’t want to admit it and they don’t want to get in the middle of your relationship.
Having an objective opinion can be helpful when it comes to dealing with a failed relationship, but if you are trying to figure out why he’s being rude to you, this is probably not the right way.
4) Check his social media
If the two of you were messaging each other on an app like Tinder, you could always check his social media to see if he’s still on Tinder. If he’s removed himself from the app but hasn’t talked to you, he may have met someone on the other side of the app. If he doesn’t see you anymore, he might think that you’re no longer interested in him.
If this is the case, he hasn’t stopped talking to you because he lost interest; it could be because he has met someone new. If you want to know for sure that this is the real reason why you are no longer speaking to each other, go ahead and act as if nothing has happened.
5. Send a casual, benign message
If you’ve checked his social media and you’ve decided that he’s just removed himself from Tinder or he hasn’t changed his number, you could try sending a simple, benign message to him.
For example, you could say: “Hey, I don’t know if you’ve noticed that I haven’t been answering your messages anymore. I wanted to let you know that I wasn’t ignoring you. If anything is going on with us, I would love to hear from you. Otherwise, I wanted to let you know that this is something that we need to figure out before it gets too serious and we make an unnecessary mistake. Thanks!”
6) Quiet and wait
If you feel like there’s something between you and him that can’t be linked, and suddenly he’s quiet, it’s good for both of you to be quiet now for both of you to see the problem.
Sometimes, trying to figure out why he’s quiet isn’t the way to go because he might just want some alone time and maybe you do too. Therefore, when a man is quiet and not texting, you should also try to be quiet and wait until he responds.
However, if you wait a long time and still don’t see a response from your partner, you should also be prepared to face the fact that he is no longer interested in you. Boys are usually like that. When they don’t like a person, they will actively not contact or ignore messages.
7) Let someone else help you
You can always talk about it with another person and see how he responds. You can find a trusted friend to talk about it and see the way he reacts to this. It might be uncomfortable to talk about it, but he will get a good idea of what is going on. If he likes you as you do, then this might be the reason why you are suddenly not talking with each other. You will know that it’s a problem on his end and not yours soon enough.
8) Looking back at the relationship
When he has been silent for a while, you should also consider and reconsider your relationship. Are you close enough and love strong or not? This way, you will know if you should continue the relationship or not.
Looking back on the past, are you the person who always takes the initiative and communicates with him? You seem to be the weaker one. However, in this era, it’s normal for girls to take the initiative. However, a guy who likes you will not let you take the initiative.
In some cases, when a man keeps quiet about texting but then continues to chat happily with you, you can rest assured that he’s just busy or has some problem.
Please respond to him emotionally and listen to the other’s share to understand and consider thoroughly. Because that listening can make him appreciate the relationship with you even more.
9) Ask someone who knows him well
If you like him, then you probably know people who know him well. You can ask them about the signs that the two of you do not get along with each other. They may know something important about the situation and they will also be able to give you advice on what to do next.
10) Think positive
When a man is silent, what should he do? Sometimes you don’t need to be too hasty and keep asking what you should do if the person is quiet. If he doesn’t reply to texts for too long, you can understand that their feelings for you seem to have come to an end. Human emotions are unpredictable, and you mustn’t let negative emotions from your relationship overwhelm your mind.
Think positively when that person isn’t texting you and remember that he’s not everything. Instead of spending time with someone who doesn’t like you, and doesn’t care about you, spend your time doing whatever makes you happy. Like learning more skills, going out with your friends, and spending time with your family.
11) Contact him
If you are sure that your relationship is going nowhere and it’s time for you to leave, you should contact him first for a smooth breakup.
When you do it, make sure you keep your tone as neutral and respectful as possible. And if you want to make things smooth, try to let him know that your decision is strict because you have decided to focus on your career and not because he has done anything wrong.
12) Keep your dignity
A man who is silent and doesn’t reply or text is not a big deal, so you don’t need to worry. When you keep your dignity and stay confident, you are more attractive. Remember that if he loves you, he will not let the silence destroy the relationship. You need to be yourself and continue to move forward in life without feeling sorry for the situation.
13) Know your worth
The mentality of women in this situation is often straight to assuming the worst. When someone is silent and doesn’t reply or text, it’s easy to feel like you’ve done something wrong or that you’re a loser. You will even think of ways to pull him closer to you. But stop for a moment and remember this – even if he loses interest in you, it’s a pity for him.
When you appreciate all your worth, you will understand that the most wonderful person who cherishes you the most; and loves you the most is waiting for you ahead.
In fact, when men are silent and don’t text, it can be due to many different reasons. You should not be in a hurry but calmly learn the truth behind it before making a decision.
No matter what happens, always remember that loving yourself is the most important, you yourself do not allow yourself to be sad because of someone who is not worthy!
Hopefully, the above information will help you better understand when you see men are quiet and take better initiative in their relationships.
Finally, as long as you’re an adult, remember that you’re happy with your life, and always be willing to reach out and connect with others.
And if you want to get a clearer picture of what a relationship is like, check out some great relationship advice books or online articles. Even watch some relationship videos online if you like.
Reading, watching and listening are all helpful ways that can help clear up any confusion unintentionally caused by this article.