Can you manifest someone when you’re feeling insecure?

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Have you ever had a situation in which you felt insecure? You may have felt jealous, frustrated, or scared… and now you’re trying to manifest someone to help make the situation better. Can this really work? And if so, how do you manifest someone when your emotions are unclear?

This article will cover these and other important questions. Read on and find out more! 

If you’re having feelings of insecurity right now, thinking that someone you love is going to leave you, or if you’re feeling lonely and wanting company, the answer is simple: 


Manifesting someone when you’re feeling insecure will not help your situation. You cannot manifest your ideal partner into a relationship out of jealousy or frustration with your current partner. This strategy is not sustainable and will only push the person away that much quicker.

So… in order to use the Law of Attraction effectively to manifest someone who will make your life better, you need to be 100% clear about what it is that makes this person good for your life. You need to be clear about what it is you want from them specifically. 

The clearer your intentions are about what you want, the easier it will be for Universe to give it to you… because Universe loves clarity!

But the good news is that if you’re feeling insecure about a relationship in your life, you can use this opportunity as a chance to become more clear about what it is that makes the relationship so great! 

The clearer you are about your expectations precisely, the more Universe will be able to give them to you.

So how to manifest yourself when you’re feeling insecure? Keep reading, we’ll give you some tips!

10 tips to manifest someone when you’re feeling insecure.

1) Notice where you feel insecure

Have you ever been in a situation where you’re so desperate to get something, but you feel like Universe is giving you nothing in return? 

This is likely because you didn’t know what it was that you wanted or needed.

When you’re in this situation, it’s likely that you’re feeling insecure in some area of your life. This could be a romantic relationship, your finances, or the relationship with your parents.

But even if it doesn’t involve another person, you can still feel insecure about many things including your body, job performance, and friendships.

So where do you feel like is the area of your life that’s causing you the most insecurity? If it’s something that isn’t directly related to another person (for example a job), write down how you think other people perceive you when they look at this area of your life (for example they think I’m not smart enough to be in my job). 

Then ask yourself… when I look at this part of my life right now, what feeling is most prevalent within me? Is it Jealousy? Frustration? Fear? Other… 

Write down what the feeling is! Do this for every area of your life that makes feel insecure: 

Relationships with friends and family; career; income; health… etc. 

The clearer you are about how Universe sees these areas of your life and what emotion attaches itself to them on an emotional level, Universe will be able to give them to you more easily!

2) Start your own healing process by being less critical of yourself 

You might say: 

“What? But I don’t feel critical of myself!” 

And you’re right, you might not be! But if you’re feeling insecure in a relationship, there’s a high chance that you are feeling critical towards yourself on an unconscious level. 

This is because if someone else makes us feel bad about ourselves (for example they break up with us), our brain creates mental pictures of how we acted before that person broke up with us and decides this is why they did it.

So… in order to understand what it is you’re jealous of, frustrated by, or scared of, you need to dig deeper into your own fears and desires. This will help you learn the lesson that’s asking to be learned.

3) Visualize yourself feeling confident about your desire

This is another visualization exercise that you can do in order to bring about the vibration and feeling of your desire into your life. 

You do this by standing or sitting in front of a mirror and imagining that you’re already experiencing it but in a more intense manner than how you would normally. 

This is not an ordinary visualization exercise, here’s why:

Visualize the vibration of your desire as a tangible texture, color, smell, or sound. For example, if you want to experience more money in your life, imagine it vibrating with the feeling of love – like liquid gold! 

If you want to experience better health, visualize the energy of health rubbing off onto your skin with every touch. 

The clearer you are about what these vibrations feel like and have them present within your imagination during the visualization process, the easier it will be for Universe to manifest them!

4) Notice where your feelings of confidence have come from, and repeat as needed 

Here’s the truth:

In every area of our lives, we have experienced something that has made us feel confident in a similar situation before. Even though you might not be aware of this feeling of confidence consciously, your unconscious mind is very aware of it and is always seeking to recreate it!

If you are not feeling confident about a particular desire in your life and you want to bring the vibration and feeling of confidence into an area that feels lacking, then the best thing that you can do is get in touch with what does make you feel confident about yourself.

For example, if an aspect of your health is lacking, then notice how you did feel when someone complimented your body or appearance in the past? 

Or if an aspect of your love life lacks trust or affection, notice how good it felt when a person loved and trusted you before? How did it feel when a romantic gesture from someone made you smile? The more specific detail you can remember them better.

5) Consult an expert or mentor

Another tip to manifest someone when you’re feeling insecure is to find someone to consult your feelings with. 

You can call a therapist, talk to a mentor, or even ask for tips from someone who has dated many people before or achieved success in that particular area.

At the end of the day, however, it is you who must take action to improve your life and make the changes that you want in your life. 

No one else can do this for you! And if they try to convince you otherwise then they are trying to take away your power and confidence. 


Confidence is knowing that everything will happen exactly how it’s supposed to!

6) Imagine their presence making you feel safe

When we are feeling confident and strong, we feel like anyone who enters our life will add to our lives and make them better. This is true not only of romantic relationships but in all areas of life.

So if you’re finding yourself feeling insecure or desperate to meet someone when you’re trying to manifest a relationship with someone, it might be helpful to focus on the idea that their presence will make you feel safe and secure.

Understand that being in a relationship with another person is nothing like being with your parents or friends. 

In the same way that your mom or dad cannot meet all of your needs for love, affection, acceptance, and security – no matter how close they are – there will always be some type of need that another person can fulfill. The more you understand that you do not need one person to do everything for you the easier it will be to manifest an amazing partner!

7) List possible ways to make your insecurity less powerful

Once you have identified a specific feeling of insecurity, ask yourself what you can do to turn that around. Thinking up some options ahead of time will help you when you are feeling bad about yourself and your life.

Here are a few ideas: 

  • Go to bed early and wake up early to take care of yourself by doing something nice for yourself – like relaxing in a bubble bath or going for walk in the park. 
  • Pursue one of your passions, like dancing, singing, drawing, or painting 
  • Cook a healthy meal to show yourself that you love and appreciate yourself What new skills could I learn? What hobbies could I start? 
  • Learn how to play an instrument or how to paint better 
  • Take an acting class 
  • Try out new recipes which will help your cooking skills in the future 

Don’t be afraid to try new things to feel more confident. It’s perfectly okay to try something new and not be sure how it will turn out! Be curious about the outcome and you will learn something about yourself in the process. 

This is how you can turn your insecurity into something exciting and fun! And then manifest your desires into the life of your dreams!

8) Repeat the affirmation until it becomes true for you

Research shows that our brains have a tendency to resist positive affirmations, even if we think we believe them. Many people will tell you it’s because they don’t believe the affirmations, but that’s not the whole story.

What happens is that our mind is set on autopilot to keep us safe – whether it was working in our favor or not – and it tries to continue doing things the way they’ve always been done. 

So whether your affirmation is something you are saying just once or many times, your mind doesn’t want to change and will put up with negative self-talk as long as it can. In this case, it’s “Trying again?” and “I’m still no good.”

In order to make positive thoughts become true in real life, you have to train your mind not only with what you say but also in how you say it: 

  • Choose an affirmation that feels true for you. 
  • Say the affirmation out loud ten times a day (or more!). 
  • Say the affirmation in front of a mirror until you see yourself believing what you’re saying! 
  • Break the statement down into small parts and repeat each part. 
  • Really mean it – no matter where you are or what’s going on around you. Don’t worry about what other people think of you during this time—that will be addressed in more detail later. Right now, focus on telling yourself what you need to hear to boost your self-esteem.

9) Close your eyes and imagine what that person would say and do if they were with you right now

This tip not only gives you the confidence to view yourself differently and see the possibilities, but it also takes you out of the self-doubt loop. 

You may scoff at the idea that your ideal person would know you best and be able to tell you what’s wrong with you, but when you close your eyes and picture them in your mind, they do.

But the most important thing when manifesting someone if you’re insecure is that you have to believe it’s possible and that you have unlimited power to make it happen. You just have to believe in yourself and start putting in measures to achieve what you’re working towards.

10) See your desire for them in your mind’s eye as if it is already a reality

This may sound a bit strange, but if you really want something to happen, you need to visualize yourself getting it. It’s just like wishing for something in your mind and then by mental training of the body, you get it. 

You’re creating a new reality. 

The universe does not work like a video game where you get into a trance, let me defeat your opponent, or finish this level. You have to believe in yourself and the power that comes with a constant positive affirmation.

You have to take action! If you want something done right – do it yourself!

If we were all lucky enough to fall in love with the objects of our desire as they walk us as they’re walking by us, then how could we ever hope to be ourselves? How could we hope to attain fulfillment through anything other than love alone?  

I know it’s hard, but if we are unable to put ourselves first, then love cannot remain.

Final thoughts

Manifesting is about making your physical reality reflect the reality you want it to be. 

It is about creating your own world through visualization and giving yourself permission to create an amazing life. 

By working with yourself instead of against yourself, you can feel more confident and empowered to attract anything in the universe to come into your life. To make things even easier, it’s important that you surround yourself with people who love you unconditionally and encourage your dreams.

Just believe that all you want is possible! You are enough and perfect just the way you are! If the world is what we think it is, then the only way to manifest anything in the world is to think in an illogical, impossible fashion. 

Isn’t it time to change?