Many people think that when you have already been officially in a romantic relationship with someone, things will go “pinkly” and both of you will live together happily ever after.
However, everything is actually just beginning after then, and ahead is a brand new series of further relationship problems.
Some issues could even be so unpredictable that may make you feel awkward to face.
I guarantee that you will see your problems in this article because all of them are just normal and common to others’ relationships as well.
Here are 8 awkward relationship issues that are totally normal:
1) You are bothered by your partner’s bad habits.
People usually tend to idealize their lover and focus only on the relationship’s good side at first.
Bad habits are those things that people do repeatedly but unconsciously, making others feel uncomfortable and annoying.
For instance, if a woman’s boyfriend/husband has a bad habit of showing his temper when under pressure.
Consequently, her emotion is affected and she may feel upset or stressed whenever he does that but without his recognition.
Another bad habit can also be: smoking, drinking too much or gambling, etc.
Bad habits are also usually the result of their experiences in life.
This is totally normal as no one is perfect and everyone has their own “set of bad habits”.
So why is this awkward?
This may be because your partner’s bad habits bother you a lot but you don’t know how to tell them and help them get rid of those habits appropriately without hurting their self-esteem.
It is difficult to solve but not impossible!
Why don’t you ask them the story behind each of their bad habit and find out ways to overcome those habits together?
As long as reasons are known, solutions are always available to be found!
In this way, both of you can even understand each other more deeply through the stories of your partner’s past experiences.
You even help your partner overcome his/her bad habits more easily as he/she knows that they always have you besides being ready and willing to support.
2) Gradual boredom in sex life.
“Sex life” may be an embarrassing topic for some people, especially Asians.
That is why boredom in sex life is another relationship issue that may make you feel awkward to face.
Sex is a kind of connection between both of you that helps improve your relationships to a higher level.
It also aids to boost intimate communication, which will make your relationship closer than before.
A relationship may start with a lot of enthusiasm, but time passes, and you have to face this problem together.
Thinking back to your two very first sexual experiences which are intoxicating and exhilarating might make your physical connection and passion in love have been significantly declined.
However, the fact is that sex life in every long-term relationship will inevitably become boring.
Again, this problem is totally normal and common to every couple.
Actually, it is not your sex life that becomes dull but it is your life burden that intervenes and squeezes out the ecstasy of sex.
No matter how well you know each other, the impact of your life burden that is filled up with responsibilities may make you feel physically detached.
The key to coping with this is to acknowledge this fact first and again, COMMUNICATION!
It is essential to overcome your shyness when sharing your sexual desires with your lover.
Tell your partner what you are missing, what you’d like more of, and of course, listen to theirs as well.
3) Neither of you wants to take the next step in the relationship.
This may sound awkward but the problem of not wanting to take the next step is quite common in most relationships.
When you are in a relationship with someone, it is inevitable that you want to take the next step, marriage.
However, if neither of you is ready to take the next step, it will be difficult for your relationship to develop further.
Many people just don’t want to do that because they believe that they aren’t ready to get married or they are not ready to have children yet.
It is totally normal to feel so!
Just take your time for self-development so that both of you can be fully prepared for your relationship’s future steps.
So how can you overcome this feeling of being “stuck in a rut”?
Well, you need more than just willpower, that’s for sure.
I learned about this from Life Journal, created by the highly-successful life coach and teacher Jeanette Brown.
You see, willpower only takes us so far…the key to transforming your life into something you’re passionate and enthusiastic about takes perseverance, a shift in mindset, and effective goal setting.
And while this might sound like a mighty task to undertake, thanks to Jeanette’s guidance, it’s been easier to do than I could have ever imagined.
Now, you may wonder what makes Jeanette’s course different from all the other personal development programs out there.
It all comes down to one thing:
Jeanette isn’t interested in being your life coach.
Instead, she wants YOU to take the reins in creating the life you’ve always dreamt of having.
So if you’re ready to stop dreaming and start living your best life, a life created on your terms, one which fulfills and satisfies you, don’t hesitate to check out Life Journal.
4) Differences in countries’/ ethnics’ cultures.
When you are in a relationship with someone from another country or ethnicity, the biggest obstacle is their culture.
For instance, if a Western man meets an international bride from Asia or from South America, he may be surprised by her daily routine which he couldn’t see before when they were dating.
This issue makes you feel awkward to talk about since you are afraid of saying something that may unintentionally offend their country or ethnic culture.
If your partner is from a different culture than you, it may take some time for them to understand, but it is a normal problem that can easily be overcome.
Even after two partners have made themselves understand each other, there will always be differences in cultures.
However, if love has already struck both of you, then you should resolve your cultural differences and overcome them together as a couple.
So, how to deal with this problem?
Firstly, do your best to communicate with each other and avoid any conflicts by discussing the situation of the problem.
Make an effort to understand each other first. Then, continue your discussion until you come up with a solution that works out best for both of you while maintaining your relationship.
Moreover, in today’s free-flowing world with the mixing of cultures, solving this problem may seem to be much easier.
If your partner doesn’t love you the way you expect, it doesn’t mean that they don’t love you!
5) Endless conflicts due to opposing ideologies.
Every new relationship has a charming phase when both of you feel extremely happy being together after a period of conquering each other.
Once the new relationship’s charming phase is over, the disparities in ideas might become more apparent.
You may have to face a lot of conflicts when ideological differences come out.
You may question why this happens:
“Why can’t we always be like us in the first period when you two always agree with each other on everything?”
“Why do we have to keep fighting even though we both feel very anxious and worried about our relationship?”
Then, you may feel this problem is awkward.
Ideological differences do appear in every relationship.
However, again, you may not recognize at first, when both of you may idealize each other and focus only on the relationship’s good side.
Is it too ideal to expect a relationship without unnecessary arguments?
The answer is definitely YES!
As we all know, everyone can’t be 100% compatible in a relationship even when you can live in harmony together.
This is simply because we all have differences in academic background, professional experiences, and life philosophies.
Each person has his/her own opinion due to his/her own past experiences. They could be happy and sad, joyful and miserable, which will eventually form their mindset.
Some are liberal, while some are conservative. Some like absorbing new things, whereas some stubbornly insist on their usual ways.
Therefore, you can’t agree with each other on everything, and conflicts will definitely be inevitable, which is absolutely a usual thing for every couple.
Because of this, it is common to see our partners complaining about the opposite things you do or think of.
So, try to talk with each other as much as possible and respect your partner’s ideas.
No matter how wrong they are or how ridiculous they may seem, you should never insult your lover.
Communication is the key to every relationship! And your relationship is no exception!
You may have heard this a million times.
But believe me! It is never wrong!
Opposing ideologies can even strengthen a relationship by creating cognitive and emotional connections between you and your partner.
It pushes you to think out of the box, and when you are able to do so compassionately and genuinely with your interest in your partner’s perspective, both of you can mature individually as well as together.
6) A sense of disconnection.
A sense of disconnection is another awkward relationship issue that is totally normal.
This problem arises when you both lose the passion and love you had.
This is a kind of problem that can easily grow big and negatively affect your relationship.
However, the truth of this matter is after a long-term relationship has accumulated and peaks at a certain time, the love and passion in it will eventually decrease.
So, how to deal with this?
Firstly, notice the changes and accept them as a normal thing.
Secondly, try to think back to the time when you just met your partner.
You may wonder if he/she is “the one” for you. If so, how did you realize it?
The reason for the passion between both of you could be brought by numerous factors, such as personality, family background, and so on.
These reasons will then remind both of you how you have loved each other and hold you two back from giving up this relationship.
When you’re dealing with disconnection in a relationship it’s easy to become frustrated and even feel helpless. You may even be tempted to throw in the towel and give up on love.
I want to suggest doing something different.
It’s something I learned from the world-renowned shaman Rudá Iandê. He taught me that the way to find love and intimacy is not what we have been culturally conditioned to believe.
In fact, many of us self-sabotage and trick ourselves for years, getting in the way of meeting a partner who can truly fulfill us.
As Rudá explains in this mind blowing free video, many of us chase love in a toxic way that ends up stabbing us in the back.
We get stuck in awful relationships or empty encounters, never really finding what we’re looking for and continuing to feel horrible about things like disconnection.
We fall in love with an ideal version of someone instead of the real person.
We try to “fix” our partners and end up destroying relationships.
We try to find someone who “completes” us, only to fall apart with them next to us and feel twice as bad.
Rudá’s teachings showed me a whole new perspective.
While watching, I felt like someone understood my struggles to find and nurture love for the first time – and finally offered an actual, practical solution to disconnection in your relationship.
If you’re done with unsatisfying dating, empty hookups, frustrating relationships and having your hopes dashed over and over, then this is a message you need to hear.
I guarantee you will not be disappointed.
7) Doubts begin to appear.
Dealing with doubts in relationships is another awkward issue that makes you feel uncomfortable.
However, that problem is fairly normal for many couples.
So, undergoing this problem does not mean that your relationship will be over. Both of you can still get over this and move forward together.
In fact, doubts are actually one of the best things that can happen to your relationship, assuring your two love and care for each other, as long as they do not become a burden.
When you put your trust in your partner and start doubting him/her, it will make you think about his/her potential with you in the future.
That kind of thinking can lead to a more mature relationship.
Doubts make a person start thinking more, which leads to clearer visions of the future.
It also makes a person careful and alert so as not to be hurt in the future.
The key here is to ask yourself about your feelings for this person and why you are hesitating.
If you are hesitant because you are uncertain about your feelings and insecurities, perhaps it is best to take a pause.
Then, try to make more effort at understanding each other and watching out for one’s feelings.
Doubt is a good thing, but it can be destructive if you let it take over your mind.
In any relationship, both anger and doubt will disappear more easily when you face them together.
Turn to each other and talk it through with each other if you feel any doubt or anger towards your partner.
You may have the feeling that you are the only one who is affected by this problem, but it is unlikely because your partner will also feel the same way.
Believe me! After being able to solve this problem your relationship will be better than before!
8) Your boyfriend or girlfriend’s family doesn’t like you.
Is that an awkward issue you are facing?
If that is, don’t worry! Trust me! You are not alone!
You will be surprised to know that this is quite common to many couples as a relationship issue.
Your partner’s parents may not like you because of various reasons such as your financial background, etc.
However, this problem doesn’t necessarily mean that the relationship is doomed to fail or become a disaster.
Rather, it is a common issue in all relationships and you will overcome it sooner or later.
So how to deal with that?
First of all, you should communicate openly about your feelings and the feelings of your partner’s parents with them so that you can reach an agreement together.
Secondly, the best way to deal with this awkward situation is:
Let them know about both your physical and mental value!
Physically, if your financial background doesn’t live up to their expectation, you may prove your bright future using your education background and your current efforts.
Mentally, showing care towards them, convincing them with good intentions.
Be patient and be yourself!
So, if your two’s relationship is just new, it might be a bit difficult for both you and your partner’s family to understand each other.
However, as time goes by, you may get closer to your partner’s family as well.
But if the problem can’t be solved after all your efforts, just let it be!
Yes, you read that right!
The truth is, you can’t make someone like you if they don’t want to like you.
Sometimes the truth hurts but it’s true!
However, there will be nothing to regret after then because at least, you have tried your best!
It is a natural process of maturation and progress that issues begin to arise in every relationship.
You may find some of the issues awkward but now you see that they are totally normal and very common to every relationship.
So, don’t worry! Every problem has its own solution as long as you and your partner want to solve them!
The most important thing is to share these issues honestly and talk about them openly.