12 signs your ex is your soulmate (and 10 signs they aren’t!)

So you’ve broken up with someone you really loved.

You had a fantastic relationship, but now that it’s ended, you can’t help but wonder:

Were they my soulmate? The one and only that I was actually destined to be with?

Or am I just kidding myself and there is actually someone out there who is better for me?

Look:

It’s never easy breaking up, but breaking up with your soulmate? Ouch, that’s got to hurt.

So let’s figure it out, shall we?

First, we’re going to go through 12 signs that they were your soulmate. After that, we’ll discuss 10 signs that they weren’t.

1. They were “in tune” with you.

Did you just seem to “get” each other? It was almost like you knew what they were thinking and they know what you were thinking?

You see, soulmates have an incredible connection. They understand each other. They sense what the other is thinking and how they feel.

They can even tell you when they’re feeling sad or if they need to talk. They can sense everything that you are feeling.

In fact, it’s almost like they read your mind.

If you can relate to that, then your ex certainly could be your soulmate.

2. You were always “on the same page”.

You were always in sync with each other. You both shared similar views and feelings.

You liked similar things. You had similar opinions. Most importantly, you shared similar values.
And that is one of the most important things about a soulmate:

They should have similar values or morals. They should have morals and values that you both agree on.

If you really were on the same wavelength with your thoughts and feelings about life, then it’s likely that they could have been your soulmate.

3. Your gut tells you that they were your soulmate

The thing about soulmates is that they are so right that you don’t need to question your decision.

Your gut instinct should have been telling you that they were the right one for you.

You never had to doubt whether they were or not because you both just fit together perfectly.

Sometimes they even pop up in your mind and you suddenly get a warm feeling.

If your gut instinct was telling you that they were the right person for you, then it might be possible that they could have been your soulmate.

Gut instincts are actually powerful because they can be the strongest instincts that you have.

And when your gut instinct tells you that something is true, then it’s usually a good sign.

4. You ended your relationship on good terms

You both ended things in the best way possible.

You had a wonderful discussion, you both spoke to each other in a positive, respectful, and loving manner and you both promised that you would never fight again.

First off, having loved each other means that you probably shared some similar values.

You both may have had similar morals and values so if you both understood the importance of respecting and loving one another, then it might have been possible that they were your soulmate.

You also agreed on how to deal with difficult situations. You both would try to work things out as long as you both understood why you needed to do that.

And when it came to ending your relationship, you both did so on good terms.

You both were happy to leave the door open to restarting the relationship in the future.

5. You truly admire each other

Soulmates admire each other. They admire each other’s looks, personality and attitude.

They can be proud of each other. And they both want to bring out the best in each other.

When a soulmate relationship happens, there is an immense feeling of admiration and pride that comes with it.

It’s almost like how you would feel if you were proud of your own child for becoming an adult.

If you can say that you both admire each other, then it could be possible that they’re your soulmate.

6. You put each other first

If you put each other first, then it’s likely that they could have been your soulmate.

When you are in a soulmate relationship, you value each other above everyone else.

You care about their well-being more than yours. And when your partner needs something, like attention or love, then you give it to them rather than yourself.

You put your partner first before anything else. You care about them as much as you care about yourself and that’s one of the most important qualities about a soulmate.

7. You both share a strong physical attraction to each other

A strong physical attraction is not just physical, it’s also mental and emotional attraction too.

And when you have such an incredible all-around attraction to someone, then that could be a sign that they might have been your soulmate.

When a soulmate attraction happens with real feelings, then it’s powerful and extraordinary.

And if you can say that you had strong physical attraction to your ex, then they might have been your soulmate.

And I’m not just talking about bedroom action, either. I’m talking about feeling extreme comfort and love when you’re in each other’s arms.

8. You were emotionally connected to each other (and still are!)

Emotional connection is the strongest type of connection between two people.

It’s like how two lovers feel when they’re in love with each other: There is unconditional love, understanding and respect for each other.

It’s like how a mother and daughter can feel when they’re connected through so much love.

And this kind of connection is also beyond words: You just feel connected.

If you’re able to say that you could literally feel each other’s heartbeat, then it’s possible that they could have been your soulmate.

9. You both shared the same past

When you both had pasts, you should have been able to relate to each other.

You could have been able to talk about the same things, such as family members and experiences with them.

If you could easily understand where they were coming from and how they were feeling, then they probably were your soulmate.

After all, soulmates can have very similar childhood experiences and that can help you work towards understanding each other.

If you both understood the concept of family and knew how to deal with adversity and problems, then it’s certainly conceivable that they were your soulmate.

10. You don’t think badly of them at all (even after breaking up)

Not only do you not think bad of them, but you also don’t have bad feelings towards them.

Rather than feeling hurt and angry, you feel so glad that they were in your life.

You’re glad that they came into your life to teach you whatever lessons they needed to teach you.

When you think of them, you just feel love and positivity.

11. You both had good communication

Soulmates can communicate with each other about anything and everything.

You’re able to talk about your feelings without any fear of being judged or criticized.

And you communicate well with each other in a very positive, easygoing, and respectful way.

If you both had good communication, then it’s possible that they were your soulmate.

12. They still make you laugh

If you still laugh at their jokes, it’s possible that they could have been your soulmate.

You both have a sense of humor and a lot of fun together.

And they’re able to make you laugh as easily as they can make themselves laugh.

After all, you can take the drama out of anything when you’re with your soulmate. And that’s why you have such a close bond.

Even after the breakup, they still have the ability to lighten your day and make you smile. If you can say that you still laugh and joke with them, then that would be a huge sign that they could have been your soulmate.

13. You can’t see yourself marrying anyone else

Many people picture themselves with their soulmate. And even if they get a new relationship after the breakup, they still picture themselves married to their ex.

Because when it comes to soulmates, you can’t see yourself marrying anyone else.

You just “know” in your heart that they were your “one and only”.

You were meant to be. And when it comes to picturing yourself walking down the aisle, you can’t see it happening with anyone else but your ex.

That’s true love.

Alright, so now we’ve gone over the signs that they were your soulmate, let’s go over the signs that they weren’t.

10 signs they weren’t your soulmate

1. You never felt any physical attraction

If you never felt any physical attraction to your ex, it’s safe to say that they weren’t your soulmate.

When we talk about soulmate chemistry, it’s not just a physical attraction.

But I do understand how physical attraction can be enough to make you feel like you’ve known each other for years and truly belong with each other.

But if there was no physical attraction at all, then it’s not a good sign for them being your soulmate.

After all, soulmates share strong physical chemistry. They really knock you off your feet.

2. You fought a lot with them

Soulmates don’t fight a lot with each other. They’re respectful, loving and forgiving towards each other.

They can argue when it comes to giving each other advice or helping each other out, but they usually work things out in the end.

But if you argued with your ex and you kept hating eachother for days after the argument, then that’s not a good sign.

It means that your personalities clashed and that usually doesn’t happen when it comes to soulmates.

3. You never felt loved by them

If you didn’t feel loved by your ex in any kind of way, then it’s not worth thinking about them being your soulmate.

You could have felt loved at some points during the relationship, but once it ended, you wanted nothing more to do with them.

After all, if you felt cherished and loved, then you would not want to move on. But if you didn’t feel it at all, then that’s a huge red flag.

4. You ended on bad terms

Soulmates don’t end on bad terms. They can argue and say things to each other that they shouldn’t have said, but once it’s over and done with, they can let it go.

Soulmates are forgiving and kind, especially in the end.

But if you were mad at them after the breakup or even a few months ago, then it’s safe to say that they weren’t your soulmate.

Soulmates are easy to forgive. It’s easy to let go and focus on amazing love you have for each other.

But if you just can’t do that with your ex, then I’m sorry to say but they might not have been your soulmate.

5. You never felt a strong connection with them

If you never felt a strong connection with your ex, then it’s not worth thinking about them being your soulmate.

You may have only “known” each other for two months, but a soulmate bond is so strong that it can be felt instantly.

You know the partner you’ll be with for the rest of your life. And when you feel that kind of connection and chemistry, it’s hard to let it go.

But if your intuition didn’t get those “positive vibes” from your ex, then, unfortunately, they may not have been your soiulmate.

6. You didn’t see them much

Soulmates can see each other every day. They don’t spend their lives apart.

They’re usually very strong and faithful when it comes to loving each other and seeing each other as often as possible.

But if you only saw them maybe every couple of weeks, then that’s not a good sign for them being your soulmate.

A soulmate bond is so strong that you’ll always have some kind of connection with the person you’re with and you can’t handle being apart for too long at a time.

7. You moved on from them quickly

If you moved on from your ex quickly, then they probably weren’t your soulmate.

You may have felt love for them at some points during the relationship, but once it ended, you were able to move on quickly and easily.

You didn’t feel such a strong connection that you couldn’t let go and focus on something else instead.

That’s a definite sign that you and your ex were not meant to be.

Soulmates are tough to move on from. They ‘re a part of you. When you let go of one, it’s so hard to move on and think about something else.

8. You didn’t share the same interests

Soulmates have the same interests as you. They have similar personalities and they both have mutual love for each other.

But if you didn’t share any similar interests with your ex, then they may not have been your soulmate after all. They probably were nice people, but that’s just how it is. Soulmates come in all shapes and sizes.

But if you didn’t share any interests with your ex, then they weren’t the right person for you to be with.

9. You’d rather hang out with your friends than with them

If you’d rather hang out with your friends or family than be around your ex, then they’re definitely not your soulmate. You’re much more comfortable around your peers or your family than you are with your ex.

Soulmates can be fun to be around and people you want to see often. But they shouldn’t be the person you dread spending time with.

Your friends will probably get sick of seeing you so much and they’d rather hang out with each other than with you and your ex. The same goes for family.

This is a sign that you’ll grow apart from your ex and that you’re not meant to be together.

10. You don’t look back with regret

A soulmate bond makes you want to look back with regret.

When you did something wrong, you’ll always feel like you could have done better for the person you care about. You’ll always want to go back and apologize or fix things.

But if you already forgot about your ex and moved on, then they probably weren’t your soulmate after all.