He’s cheating on you. But you still love him.
And you want to believe that there’s hope for the two of you.
You’re not sure if you can trust him, but it’s hard to let go of the idea that he has potential.
There are 10 signs that you still have a chance even though he’s sleeping with someone else:
1) He said sorry, and it was sincere.
It might be hard for you to admit, but a man who is serious about having a future with you will always say sorry.
Not that every man who says sorry is worth your time.
But, if he didn’t mean what he was saying, he would not have said anything at all.
He promises to change himself.
The fact is:
Most men who cheat vow to change themselves in the future, but rarely do they keep their promise.
If he says that he will never cheat on you again then there’s a chance he means it.
If your man does not want to hurt you, then he will start to apologize for the mistakes that he has made in the past.
It may be a long time since the last time that he apologized.
But even so, most men in the first couple of years after they get married and start a family, often have many regrets.
Pregnant women see their baby as a gift from God, while some men see their child as an unwanted burden.
He tells you about his affair and suggests counseling to fix things.
Then he most likely still has feelings for you.
There is a very small chance that he doesn’t care about you anymore or that the chemistry between the two of you was not as good as it used to be.
He doesn’t lie when asked if he still loves you.
It’s not that he doesn’t love you anymore, but mostly because men do not realize until they need to make a choice which woman they should be with.
2) He is spending more time with you than before.
If your man is spending more time with you than with the other woman, then it means that he has realized the mistake that he made.
Because he still has feelings for you, he does not want to bring his relationship to an end because he does not want to be alone.
He wants to spend quality time with you and is willing to sacrifice something for it.
If your man is willing to change everything about himself, then he might just want the best for you and your relationship.
If he is willing to change his behavior and sacrifice time with his friends or family then it probably means that he wants this relationship.
If not because of what you mean to him in particular, but because of what you both mean to each other.
If he does not show any interest in the other woman and takes the initiative to spend time with you, he could very well be telling you that he still wants a future with you.
But, don’t get confused if he doesn’t spend time with you.
There are many men who are not able to control their emotions and this is the only way for them to cope.
3) He loves you more than ever before.
This is what most women agree to be a very important factor.
If he was willing to cheat on you, it means that you were not giving him what he wanted or needed.
But when you two were estranged, he realized the value of having you in his life.
This is why he actually took the time to reflect and figure out what went wrong and what can be done in the future to prevent cheating.
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Have you ever asked yourself why love is so hard?
Why can’t it be how you imagined growing up? Or at least make some sense…
When you’re dealing with your partner sleeping with someone else it’s easy to become frustrated and even feel helpless. You may even be tempted to throw in the towel and give up on love.
I want to suggest doing something different.
It’s something I learned from the world-renowned shaman Rudá Iandê. He taught me that the way to find love and intimacy is not what we have been culturally conditioned to believe.
In fact, many of us self-sabotage and trick ourselves for years, getting in the way of meeting a partner who can truly fulfill us.
As Rudá explains in this mind blowing free video, many of us chase love in a toxic way that ends up stabbing us in the back.
We get stuck in awful relationships or empty encounters, never really finding what we’re looking for and continuing to feel horrible about things like your partner sleeping with someone else.
We fall in love with an ideal version of someone instead of the real person.
We try to “fix” our partners and end up destroying relationships.
We try to find someone who “completes” us, only to fall apart with them next to us and feel twice as bad.
Rudá’s teachings showed me a whole new perspective.
While watching, I felt like someone understood my struggles to find and nurture love for the first time – and finally offered an actual, practical solution on how to heal yourself after being cheated.
If you’re done with unsatisfying dating, empty hookups, frustrating relationships and having your hopes dashed over and over, then this is a message you need to hear.
I guarantee you will not be disappointed.
4) He does not act like nothing happened when you are around.
The fact is that he might be able to fool others with his new attitude, but you know very well what happened.
This is why when you’re in his vicinity, he does not act the same way he normally does.
He behaves differently because he knows that if you do the same thing again at some point in future, it will be only a matter of time before something goes wrong again.
So what does it mean?
It means he has changed himself for you in many ways.
It is easy to change yourself for someone when you have no feelings for them.
No matter what type of person he is, there is a good chance that he will change himself for you.
If he really wants to keep his relationship with you on track and keep you from getting into trouble, then he will make some changes.
But, if he doesn’t love you as much as before and does not want to be with you, then this is probably the best decision for him.
If he has changed a lot, then this might be a sign that there are still feelings for you.
5) He does not use the opportunity to talk about them.
Most men who sleep with someone else do it to avoid talking about their relationship with you.
If he does not want to talk about it, he is not going to bring up the other woman in his life.
You may be able to get some answers if you ask the right questions.
But this will only work if you are patient and sensitive enough to understand the type of signals your man sends out.
The fact is:
He just wants to have sex with another woman.
If he talks about it only in the beginning, then your relationship with him has the potential to work.
At some point, you might even be able to forget about his affair.
If he doesn’t talk about her all the time, then there is a very high chance that you are going to end up like the last woman who was with him.
6) He asks questions from you about your feeling and opinions.
He wants to know what your thoughts are and how you feel before making a move.
He might just want to know whether or not he actually has a future with you or not.
He has a hard time expressing his emotions when he is with you.
There is no doubt that the more time you spend together, the less guarded he will start to be.
He will be more open when he is with you and not afraid to tell you how he feels about you.
But this does not mean that he does not care about what happens in his relationship with you because there are men who are extremely sensitive about their feelings.
All this means is that he is more open with you and tells you of his feelings.
7) He wants you to be with him.
The fact is that if he does not want to be with you, he will do everything he can to make sure that it happens.
He will go behind your back and have sex with the other woman in order to avoid the idea of being without you.
- He is afraid of losing you.
- This can be a good thing or a bad thing.
If he wants to fix his mistakes and spend more time with you, then it is definitely a good sign that there is still love for you.
But if he just wants to get away from the issue, then this will only make things worse for you.
The fact that he does not want to be with her and not doing anything about it means that you mean something to him.
He is trying to take the relationship to a whole different level.
No matter how small the changes are, they are still enough to show you that he is willing to try hard to make it work.
But if he just wants to fix this issue so that it does not happen again, then he will not be making any changes in his life.
He might want you back in his life for a variety of reasons like money, power or all of them.
8) He will try to make things better.
He has started to open up more.
If he was able to deceive you, he will definitely try to act normal when you’re around.
He might not want to act this way with everyone because it will make him look guilty.
He wants the relationship to be a lot better than it was before.
If he has gone through a divorce or knows that you are the only one, then there is a very good chance that he will act differently around you.
Perhaps he has realized that what he did was wrong and is trying to change things in the past so that it does not happen again.
He does not talk about her.
The fact is that you might be able to get some answers if you ask him the right questions.
- Men are creatures of habit.
- No matter how much time has passed, he is not going to spend a lot of time thinking about her (unless she’s still in contact with him).
He does not want this mistake to happen again.
But more importantly, he does not want to lose you because you mean a lot to him.
If he does not have much to say about her, then the chances of you getting back together are higher than the ones of him getting back with her.
He wants to be with you more than he wants to be with anyone else.
9) He starts to act more mature.
If he was able to cheat on you, then he is definitely going to change his behavior in order to make things work.
If you have a relationship with him, then this means that you both have many years of experience together.
He has a lot of time with you and knows that he does not have to be perfect in order for him and his mistakes (especially the one from last week).
But you can see the change in his behavior and the fact that he is not afraid to show it.
He wants to make things right.
This means that you have to be patient because most of the time, men do not think with their heads.
They usually do whatever they want and do not care about other people’s feelings on how they’re doing it.
It is also important for you to know if he is willing to compromise for his happiness.
10) He wants to do new things with you.
If he cheated on you, it does not mean that he has lost interest in you.
Some men are actually trying to move the relationship up a notch.
He might want to spend more time with you and even go on a romantic vacation with you.
This is why it is important for you to ask him what he wants out of the relationship so that you can find out if there is any chance of getting back together.
If he does not want to talk about it, then you need to cut all ties with him.
If he wants to make things right with you, then there is a good chance that you will be able to get back together.
You have to be patient because it is not going to happen in a week or even less time than that.
He wants to do new things with you.
This does not mean that he is not going to cheat on you again.
It simply means that there is still a chance of getting back together and make things better than before.
Once you understand all the signs, it will be easier for you to know whether or not he has a future with you.
What should you do if you know he is sleeping with someone else?
1) You should talk to him about how you feel.
Tell him what he is doing is not right and that if he wants the relationship to work, then he has to do something about it.
But before you talk to him, you have to calm down and understand why he did it in the first place.
Sometimes, men just want sex and they don’t care who they get it from.
If he did it without thinking about what it will do to you and your relationship, then there is a chance that he will change.
If he cares about his behavior and wants to fix things up again, then there is a good chance that you will be able to get back together.
2) Love is not all about sex.
If he has cheated on you and you have forgiven him, then it means that you still love him and want to make things right.
Sometimes, men just do things because they are mad at their partner or just wants to get back at them.
But if he really cares about you, then the chances of you getting back together are very high.
He has to prove that he is serious and can change his behavior in the future.
If he truly cares about his behavior and does not want to do it again, then he most likely knows that he has done something wrong.
He might be very worried about doing it again in the future if you do not talk to him and tell him that you are not back together yet.
- There is no guarantee that he will change.
- You might feel disappointed, but that is because you know how good things used to be with him.
3) You should know the facts about cheating.
The fact is that sometimes, it happens without anyone knowing about it.
People try and hide behind the curtains because most people feel that they have done something wrong when they cheat on their partners.
It is always a good idea to find out if he thinks he has done something wrong by cheating on you because he will know what it feels like.
This, however, does not mean that he will not do again in the future.
If you want to get back together, then you should know how it feels to be cheated on by your partner and what that means for your relationship.
It is only when you know how to handle your feelings because the process can be quite hard.
You should not put the blame solely on him, but also learn from your mistakes because everyone makes some mistakes in their lives.
4) Listen to what your heart is telling you.
The heart can feel many things at the same time.
Your heart might be telling you that he is not worth wasting time on, but that does not mean that he is a bad person.
You have to do what makes you happy and know what you want in your life.
The best way to know what is happening with you and your partner is by talking to him and asking him questions.
If you want him to change, then he needs to listen.
Ask questions and explain how you feel about what he has done in the past.
This will help him understand your feelings, but also make things better for both of you.
5) You have to move on.
Moving on does not mean that you are going to forget about what has happened.
You just need to know that he is going to try and fix things up with you.
If he really loves you, then he will try his best to make it work again.
A word of advice:
- Everyone makes mistakes in their lives.
- The important thing is for you to forgive him for what he has done and give him a second chance.
6) You have to makeover yourself.
When you are trying to get back with your partner, it is important for you to look and feel great.
A new hairstyle, a good manicure/pedicure, or a relaxing massage could be just what your body needs to relax.
If you want him to see how good you can look and how great you feel, then it is important for you to do something about your appearance.
It’s not enough for him to know that you look beautiful.
It is important for you to feel good about yourself.
To do this, you have to take care of yourself because this is one of the main things that will drive him crazy.
Sometimes when your partner is sleeping with another women, it doesn’t mean you’re not good enough.
The best thing to do is to think about what has happened and look for the positive things in your life that are making you feel good about yourself.
It is important to always think positively because it will help you get through a tough moment in your life.
When you do something good for yourself, try to find time to go out with friends or just take a walk and enjoy the time you have on earth.
If you have never been cheated on before, then I hope that this article has been helpful for you.